10.02.2014 - Self-esteem and Articulation etc... by dali48
22.04.2001 - Interpretation of dali48
Despite all the vows of fidelity and good intentions: infidelity is commonplace - but still a taboo subject. This capacity of ousting then exacts a price, if "it" happened. But infidelity does not always mean divorce immediately. If one succeeds in overcoming the resulting offense, it can become a new beginning for all parties... (J. Abrahms / M. Spring)
90% of all the (married) men and 75% of all the (married) women profess to have cheated at least once during their relationship. Infidelity is still the main reason for divorce. But does infidelity necessarily mean the end of a relationship? The authors say a clear no - provided that both partners are willing to seriously examine their claims and to work together to rebuild them... Post-traumatic stress disorder (caused by mobbing, etc. - d.48): a person under extreme emotional stress usually pulls back from life and loses itself - to delusions... The loss of your basic self-esteem is a much deeper injury than the infidelity itself, the loss of self coincides with the loss of voice, - the articulation of the relationship together. The voice is an indicator of the self... (D. Crowley / Jack)
It belongs to human nature - to hate those who you have hurt... (Tacitus)
In many intimate relationships, in many cultures, there is usually an express or implied expectation of exclusivity, especially in sexual matters. Infidelity (colloquially known as cheating) most commonly refers to a breach of the expectation of sexual exclusivity… Infidelity can occur in relation to physical intimacy and/or emotional intimacy. The impact of infidelity is said to be not only about sex outside the relationship, but also about trust, betrayal, lying and disloyalty. Sexual infidelity by a marriage partner is commonly called philandery, adultery, or an affair... (Wikipedia)
Golden Snow
“Interesting dali48 ... infidelity this is happening all the time... sometimes it is shocking to see just who falls into this trap ... I see friends I never thought would ever let anything come between them in their marriage ... but a time of weakness... a whole life time of marriage can fall apart ... pride plays a big part in the separation, forgiveness comes hard .. the injured person hurts and feels unneeded and shame even thought they did nothing ... self-esteem goes down... it feels that they failed to keep their spouse happy and satisfied ... everyone suffers ... if they stay together always wonder during love making am I good
enough ... if they try to stay together it becomes a cold and unhappy marriage ... rebuild dali48 ... for me I do not think so ... sounds mean but these are my feelings”...
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