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Nobody can dictate to you - what you have to feel... (J. Bradshaw)

There is nothing that you want or should not want. Everything you've seen and heard is actually what you've seen and heard... - It's all right and necessary - to have fun and to play... - To tell the truth - hinders the pain. Lies distort reality - It is important to know your limits and postpone the need to be satisfied... - Responsibility means accepting the consequences of your actions and refuse to take responsibility for what others have done! - It's okay to make mistakes... - Feelings, desires and needs of other people must be respected... - It's okay to have problems... - It's wise to suppress one's anger - if one is attacked by an aggressive drunkard or by another person who tends to violence... - Traumatic scenes from the childhood become to a filter - which shape our development. In them, our pain and unexpressed feelings are anchored - which are constantly recurring in our lives... - The change in our life history through NLP has an effect, e.g. to the feeling not to be wanted as a child... - The change is based on the cybernetic assumption that our brain and our central nervous system can not distinguish between real or only imagined experiences...
For those of us whose parents are still perpetrators today, the decision can only be to keep away from them - You should leave them to their fate... - There is no greater tragedy than that of a man who does not know who he is... - The rigid roles of the family system that solidify during puberty become the only identity... - As soon as one gives up such a role, one touches the reservoir of toxic shame, which is in the depths of the soul, which binds the primordial pain - The core of which are the psychological injuries (loneliness, pressure and rejection by peers, pain over the family, etc)...
Negative identity:
I did not know who I was, so I identified with what I was not - I was "different," not like all the "Philistines" that constituted the rest of society... - People who have a negative identity, become outsiders who look at life from the outside and make fun of the others... - The violence of juvenile criminals testify the unrestrained rage of the injured child - in the soul of the perpetrator. Crime is a way to get what you did not get in childhood... - And drug consumption... - dazes the pain that causes loneliness in a disturbed family... - When the parents' intimate relationship is destroyed and both are suffering from loneliness and are full of anger, the children can express themselves in the form of school failures... - Puberty is the time when personal identity gradually grows - In children of disturbed families this process can not take place because they do not yet have an ego-feeling at the beginning of puberty... - My family was neuroticized as a consequence of the alcohol problem of my father, who had also left us... - Sons, who unvoluntarily play the role of a substitute, turn to religion or another spiritual union, which is connected with celibacy... - In this way, they remain faithful to their mother - Or they are not able to bind themselves to a woman... - Because they already feel bound to their mother - the bond to another woman would be a kind of emotional adultery... - Such men are constantly on the flight - since they never grow up (and never really leave their mother)... (S. Tomkins / L. Bandler)

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. Jump to navigation Jump to search. John Elliot Bradshaw (June 29, 1933 – May 8, 2016) was an American educator, counselor, ...

May 8, 2013 - On this site there is also references and documents about research. ... It was during this time Spitzer engaged Bandler to audiotape and .... basic patterns of NLP was also made by L. Michael Hall in the introduction of the Meta States model. ... These are exemplified by Penny Tompkins and James Lawley's ...

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