Samstag, 8. Februar 2025

08.02.2025 - Shame and loneliness, limits, feelings, being vulnerable, risks / Fear of commitment / Narcissists etc.

dali48 and private teaching since 8/1983, menaced since 1989, and writing diary & books & photographing in Erkrath till 5/2010

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dali48 was born in SHA in 1948... Studies in Tübingen in 1970 etc. Teacher & Author in Erkrath, 8/1983 till 5/2010 ... retired in Wickrath since 6/2013 etc.




see dali48 and "I think - therefore I am" etc. (Descartes)
Each day is our whole life - from sunrise to sunset etc… (dali48) 
see dali48 and "Zen finds religion in the daily activities." (I-tuan) 
Let go of something you like, and realize how fleeting it is by living without it... (Ayya Khema) 
Buddha realized that all living beings suffer because they desire and cling ... - Peace is an inner attitude to life that consists of letting go and renunciation (see e.g. nuns & monks etc. - d.48) ... (Buddha) 
Das Leben im Daseinskreislauf ist leidvoll: Geburt ist Leiden, Altern ist Leiden, Krankheit ist Leiden, Tod ist Leiden; Kummer, Lamentieren, Schmerz und Verzweiflung sind Leiden." (Buddha)
see dali48 and own experiences and reading & writing about Kübler-Ross, Moody, NDE, LAL etc. 
Hands that help are holier than lips that pray! (Robert Green Ingersoll) 

see dali48 and Climate Change since Copenhagen 2009 etc. - "Uncontrolled capitalism is producing evil - as bees are producing honey" etc.
see dali48 and reading & writing about peace etc. - see e.g. Zen and Buddhism & Peace & Dalai Lama, Thich Nhat Hanh, Ayya Khema etc, and St Nicholas, St Hildegard, St Francis etc. (dali48)

see dali48 and eating less meat, and more fruits & veggies since the 80s etc.
Homeopathy of S. Hahnemann (ca. 200 years old) should be updated, - i.e. for me more Mother tincture & less medicine shaking, and why is there no homeopathic vaccination? - see "similibus" principle etc. (dali48)
see dali48 and "I hope that Biontech (formerly in Mainz, now in London) & #mRNA #vaccines etc. - will develop a vaccination against cancer etc."
see dali48 and Vollgeld-Initiative & Basic Income in Europe etc. - instead of Banking Crisis 2008 etc.
I also like weeping willow trees - e.g. when I was on camping vacation in the 80s in France & Spain, I had my lunch (fish soup) under such a tree (that was like a tent) in the park of Bordeaux etc. (dali48)
see dali48 and "flora & fauna" since ca. 2000, and deforestation instead of planting trees etc
see dali48 and trees and "flora & fauna" and healthy air etc..
see dali48 and Bread - instead of fire-works harming animals, pets etc.
see dali48 and Democracy & human rights & gender justice etc.
"Respect for life - should be the only religion in the world!" - "Religion is a journey inside - and meditation is the way there." ... (Osho)
see dali48 and health and suitable shoes & foot hygiene etc.
see dali48 and “If the Trees disappeared off the face of the earth - mankind would only have little left to live healthy,” see e.g. Amazonas forest, Indonesia etc, see e.g. @CGShanghaiAir Shanghai - 2023-03-06 4PM - PM2.5 - 103 AQI - Unhealthy for Sensitive Groups ... etc. 
see dali48 and trees & photo synthesis and fresh air and health and cooling and biodiversity etc.
see dali48 and "flora & fauna" and reforesting etc.
siehe „Eine Gesellschaft ohne Gott, ist wie eine gut organisierte Räuberbande“, hat Papst Benedikt den Bundestagsabgeordneten ins Stammbuch geschrieben (see e.g. Cum-Ex etc. - d.48)
see dali48 and demand for the repayment of 300 euros of self-approved inflation compensation for politicians at the taxpayer's expense etc.
see dali48 and health and herbs (see e.g. M. Mességué), and e.g. kidney-tea, gastrointestinal tea, tea for colds etc.
see dali48 and "Words have no direct reference to life, are only a pale echo or image of something that itself is no longer there" ... (D. T. Suzuki)
see dali48's mother Gabriele and playing piano in Steinbach in the 50s, see dali48 and playing piano for 1 year with Mrs Kirsch in SHA in the 50s, and Christmas songs with Mrs Takahashi in Erkrath in the 80s
see dali48 and writing Tagebuch 2008 + 2009, diary3 (2010) in Erkrath, ediary4+5 (2011+2012), Collection of ediary6-12 (2013-2019) in Wickrath etc.
Bilder
diary 3: by dali48 on twitter : Dali, 48: Amazon.de: Bücher
diary 3: by dali48 on twitter : Dali, 48: Amazon.de: Books

29.04.2001 - Interpretation of dali48
Shame is lethal to human relationships. - Shame drives us all into isolation and loneliness. - Shame keeps us from getting involved in another! ...
Perhaps you have been misunderstood or ignored or openly rejected! - Perhaps you have been even left completely alone! - The world can be a very dangerous place! - A painful place! - You have learned to play it safe! - And so you have to know what shame is. - We have established limits. - When these are threatened, we panic or run away, just to make sure that we will never be hurt! - If we do not communicate important feelings, we become prisoners of our own solitude. - It is very painful to be rejected. - It requires courage to show yourself, but the rewards far outweigh the risk. - Who is inwardly happy, doesn’t deal with others so hard. - People living with themselves and what they do in agreement, may also accept others better. - What we should not accept: partners who provide proof to abuse us physically, emotionally, financially or verbally, are unkind to our children, friends, pets, or families, are disloyal or dishonest and belittle our achievements etc. - Some of us do not trust the love or they do not believe that love will last. - We feel guilty, vulnerable and weak, if someone loves us. - We are dependent, insecure and are afraid of losing control. - And all that we do not want to feel. - We are not honest with ourselves. - The only perfect person is that who is gone, you do not want, or is married with someone else. - Perfection exists only in our imagination. - No single person will ever meet all your needs! - A heart and a soul, this is a fantasy that does not work! - To have a successful relationship, both parties must want the same thing at the same time. - If this is not the case, it also does not count what else they have in common. - Relationships are always a risk, and control is the opposite of risk! - Control is an obstacle to feelings! - Control is manipulation and locks the doors to our heart! ... (Carter / Sokol)

Fear of commitment

Fear of commitment, also known as gamophobia, is the irrational fear or avoidance of long-term partnership or marriage. The term is sometimes used ...
Welche Sätze sagen Narzissten? - Typische Aussagen von Narzissten
  • „Das habe ich nie gesagt.”
  • „Sei nicht so empfindlich.”
  • „Daran bist du selbst schuld.”
  • „Das bildest du dir nur ein.”
  • „Nie kann man sich auf dich verlassen.”
see dali48 and reading & writing about Psychology & Psychiatry and e.g. Freud, Adler, Jung, and Groddeck, Frankl, Fromm, Reich, A. Janov, and Laing, Cooper, and M. Rufer, A. Wolf-Schuler, T. Wollf, I. D. Yalom, J. Bradshaw, V. Kast, A. Lowen, E. Reich, P. Lauster, P. Schellenbaum, J. Murphy, S. Steinbrecher, E. Kübler-Ross, R. A. Moody, K. Ring, I. D. Suttie, E. Jacobson, S. Forward, H. Gastager, C. M. Steiner, W. G. Niederland, R. Funk, N. Schwartz-Salant, J. Shaw, M. Woodman, R. Reich-Moise, M.-L. v. Franz, M.B. Roberts, H. König, H.-J. Maaz, G. Boyesen, W. Hollstein, A. Samuels, J. Lacan, M. Klein, O. Fenichel, S.A. Carter, J. Sokol, etc.

08.02.2025 - Fantasies & imagination and Daydreams & consciousness and S. Freud, S. Carter etc.

dali48 and private teaching since 8/1983, menaced since 1989, and writing diary & books & photographing in Erkrath till 5/2010

27.04.2001 - Interpretation of dali48 + update
Give up your fantasies. - Take some time to find yourself. - Put more value on yourself as an independent person. - Be aware about the fact that you once had to decide yourself for self-sacrifice, and that you now have in hand, to reverse this decision, - and that you can do so immediately! ...
Give up hope that another person can do for you what only you can do for yourself. - Get rid of the fear of not being liked. - Learn to be alone. - Make yourself aware of the following: If you define yourself by a relationship or the lack of a relationship - your self is not clearly defined. - Do not make others allegations, because you get on too short in life. - Do not be afraid to be selfish. - Take care of yourself. - Be your own biggest fan! ...
A connection of hearts is something very complex and needs time to unfold. - Fantasies, fears, and hormones, however, are not subtle. - They obscure the reality, - and are stronger than wisdom, discernment and tender feelings of the heart! ... (Carter / Sokol)

Fantasy in a psychological sense is broadly used to cover two different senses, conscious and unconscious. - In the unconscious sense, it is sometimes spelled "phantasy" ...
A similarly positive view of fantasy was taken by Sigmund Freud! -
Daydreams for Freud were thus a valuable resource! ... (Wikipedia)

Daydreaming

Daydreaming is a stream of consciousness that detaches from current external tasks when one's attention becomes focused on a more personal and internal ...

Fantasy (psychology)

Fantasy is a broad range of mental experiences, mediated by the faculty of imagination in the human brain, and marked by an expression of certain desires.

see dali48 and reading & writing about Psychology & Psychiatry and e.g. Freud, Adler, Jung, and Groddeck, Frankl, Fromm, Reich, A. Janov, and Laing, Cooper, and M. Rufer, A. Wolf-Schuler, T. Wollf, I. D. Yalom, J. Bradshaw, V. Kast, A. Lowen, E. Reich, P. Lauster, P. Schellenbaum, J. Murphy, S. Steinbrecher, E. Kübler-Ross, R. A. Moody, K. Ring, I. D. Suttie, E. Jacobson, S. Forward, H. Gastager, C. M. Steiner, W. G. Niederland, R. Funk, N. Schwartz-Salant, J. Shaw, M. Woodman, R. Reich-Moise, M.-L. v. Franz, M.B. Roberts, H. König, H.-J. Maaz, G. Boyesen, W. Hollstein, A. Samuels, J. Lacan, M. Klein, O. Fenichel, S. Carter, etc.

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dali48 was born in SHA in 1948... Studies in Tübingen in 1970 etc. Teacher & Author in Erkrath, 8/1983 till 5/2010 ... retired in Wickrath since 6/2013 etc.




see dali48 and "I think - therefore I am" etc. (Descartes)
Each day is our whole life - from sunrise to sunset etc… (dali48) 
see dali48 and "Zen finds religion in the daily activities." (I-tuan) 
Let go of something you like, and realize how fleeting it is by living without it... (Ayya Khema) 
Buddha realized that all living beings suffer because they desire and cling ... - Peace is an inner attitude to life that consists of letting go and renunciation (see e.g. nuns & monks etc. - d.48) ... (Buddha) 
Das Leben im Daseinskreislauf ist leidvoll: Geburt ist Leiden, Altern ist Leiden, Krankheit ist Leiden, Tod ist Leiden; Kummer, Lamentieren, Schmerz und Verzweiflung sind Leiden." (Buddha)
see dali48 and own experiences and reading & writing about Kübler-Ross, Moody, NDE, LAL etc. 
Hands that help are holier than lips that pray! (Robert Green Ingersoll) 

see dali48 and Climate Change since Copenhagen 2009 etc. - "Uncontrolled capitalism is producing evil - as bees are producing honey" etc.
see dali48 and reading & writing about peace etc. - see e.g. Zen and Buddhism & Peace & Dalai Lama, Thich Nhat Hanh, Ayya Khema etc, and St Nicholas, St Hildegard, St Francis etc. (dali48)

see dali48 and eating less meat, and more fruits & veggies since the 80s etc.
Homeopathy of S. Hahnemann (ca. 200 years old) should be updated, - i.e. for me more Mother tincture & less medicine shaking, and why is there no homeopathic vaccination? - see "similibus" principle etc. (dali48)
see dali48 and "I hope that Biontech (formerly in Mainz, now in London) & #mRNA #vaccines etc. - will develop a vaccination against cancer etc."
see dali48 and Vollgeld-Initiative & Basic Income in Europe etc. - instead of Banking Crisis 2008 etc.
I also like weeping willow trees - e.g. when I was on camping vacation in the 80s in France & Spain, I had my lunch (fish soup) under such a tree (that was like a tent) in the park of Bordeaux etc. (dali48)
see dali48 and "flora & fauna" since ca. 2000, and deforestation instead of planting trees etc
see dali48 and trees and "flora & fauna" and healthy air etc..
see dali48 and Bread - instead of fire-works harming animals, pets etc.
see dali48 and Democracy & human rights & gender justice etc.
"Respect for life - should be the only religion in the world!" - "Religion is a journey inside - and meditation is the way there." ... (Osho)
see dali48 and health and suitable shoes & foot hygiene etc.
see dali48 and “If the Trees disappeared off the face of the earth - mankind would only have little left to live healthy,” see e.g. Amazonas forest, Indonesia etc, see e.g. @CGShanghaiAir Shanghai - 2023-03-06 4PM - PM2.5 - 103 AQI - Unhealthy for Sensitive Groups ... etc. 
see dali48 and trees & photo synthesis and fresh air and health and cooling and biodiversity etc.
see dali48 and "flora & fauna" and reforesting etc.
siehe „Eine Gesellschaft ohne Gott, ist wie eine gut organisierte Räuberbande“, hat Papst Benedikt den Bundestagsabgeordneten ins Stammbuch geschrieben (see e.g. Cum-Ex etc. - d.48)
see dali48 and demand for the repayment of 300 euros of self-approved inflation compensation for politicians at the taxpayer's expense etc.
see dali48 and health and herbs (see e.g. M. Mességué), and e.g. kidney-tea, gastrointestinal tea, tea for colds etc.
see dali48 and "Words have no direct reference to life, are only a pale echo or image of something that itself is no longer there" ... (D. T. Suzuki)
see dali48's mother Gabriele and playing piano in Steinbach in the 50s, see dali48 and playing piano for 1 year with Mrs Kirsch in SHA in the 50s, and Christmas songs with Mrs Takahashi in Erkrath in the 80s
see dali48 and writing Tagebuch 2008 + 2009, diary3 (2010) in Erkrath, ediary4+5 (2011+2012), Collection of ediary6-12 (2013-2019) in Wickrath etc.