dali48 and writing books and photographing "flora and fauna" in the park of Wickrath etc.
"Write your life! - Or they'll wait till you're dead to write the lie"... (@spectraspeaks)
Part 95... by Golden SnowOur happiness is not a present someone else holds in his or her hands. Our well being is not held by another to be given or withheld at whim. If we reach out and try to force someone to give us what we believe he or she holds, we will be disappointed. We awake one day and find out that it is an illusion. That person did not hold it at all. That love we thought they would hold, did not contain our happiness. We reach out in desperate moments and try to claim the happiness and love we need. We want them to create our joy. It cannot happen. We have to deal with our issues, and we have to find our own happiness. Did I know that then, not in a long run. I stepped into a situation that lasted for over twenty years. Was I unhappy? No, but unfulfilled. Our healing from abuse will come when we become aware of, how we attempt to use others to take away our pain...Gaining our happiness remains in our own hands. I never learned this lesson until many years later from a great person who had patience with a hurt and destroyed woman. He lifted and whispered the words to save my dying soul. Some days these words hurt, other days they fill my soul and draw me up from my illusions. A man filled with love for all things. A man who himself walked the road to hell and still filled the world with love. It is hard to open one's soul to anyone and caution has to be taken, or we will find ourselves be hurt again...When we lived a life of abuse it's like coming out of a muddy river dripping with dirt. We have to take time to breathe, to clean up and find ourselves before we go into any relationship. Of course we do not recognize this at that time what is happening because we just need the love we lack. We are desperate for relief of some kind. We are like an alcoholic. We have problems of codependency, and we will make mistakes. We all love to be cherished and loved. It is a need from within. It is not entirely bad. We all need love. We are all human and vulnerable. When the pain and hurt begins to lift we can acknowledge our feelings and slow down. We have to learn to be in the moment and not rush forward or stay in the past... "Coming around the curve in the road dali48 , some things are hiding from memory , thanks for your help never would have reached this place without your encouragement ..."Golden Snow"Hello dali48 , again I thank you for your teaching and patience to keep me going , moving alone a little better ..."
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