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27.01.2020 - Verena Kast and loneliness and relationship anxiety etc...

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07.06.1998 - Interpretation of dali48

Loneliness is fundamentally part of life and being alone is also a fundamental dimension of human life - By this (resulting) separation aggression is often dressed in a reproach to the partner - One wants too much of the other. You finally have to be alone and do something on your own - that makes perfect sense. It's about having feelings for oneself, a secure, accepting space for oneself - On the one hand the beautiful appearance is cultivated (the lovers are young, beautiful, full of desire and full of promise), and on the other sex is propagated as gymnastics and competitive sports - A culture of desire is barely presented, even no dialogues of love. Moreover, the sexual needs of women and men are not the same - Women who are economically dependent are more willing to adapt sexually, and to deny themselves. Women want to achieve closeness, self-esteem, security and a home by adapting to the sexuality of the man - When love desire and sacrificial fantasies are disappointed, inappetency arises - 70% of women are cheating (after 5 years of marriage) and (men 75 %). The reason is alienation from the husband / wife, i.e. not enough or only unsatisfactory sex - Power conflicts are not conducive to the intense feelings of love - The sexual fantasies sometimes go very private ways in this time, ways which the partner may not even want to know, and which you do not want to share anymore. This is part of this phase - There is still a relational anxiety to consider, which can play a role in all the described forms of fear: the fear of destiny - If we are afraid of destinies, then the new fantasies are forbidden - but they are the basis for the feelings of love, passion and aliveness - The concept of faith can be very fatal. The question is where we want to be faithful. Do we want to be true to a liveliness, or do we want to be faithful to a human being at the price that we are then completely lifeless? - In situations that trigger fear because we do not meet a requirement - we feel ashamed and are afraid of losing face, and no longer being looked at ... (V. Kast)

Verena Kast (* 24. Januar 1943 in Wolfhalden, Schweiz) ist eine Schweizer Psychologin und Professorin für Psychologie an der Universität Zürich sowie ...


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27.01.2020 - V. Kast and couples and indifference and toddlers and feelings etc...

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07.06.1998 - Interpretation of dali48

In my opinion, the difference to sadomasochistic couples is that indifferent people are even more desperate, have even greater non-self-esteem, have experienced more injuries ...

15.02.2013 - Interpretation of dali48

Indifference is the absolute and strongest revenge in a relationship that was originally about affirmation of self-esteem - Other people can contribute much to our happiness and unhappiness, but they are not responsible for our happiness or misfortune - Because in mistrust we close each other - and then just the confirmations, which could still take place, no longer take place - Lurking in the background, the fear of separation, the fear of injury, loss of love, loss of self-worth are rooted in a fear of the being alone and loneliness - Fear of loneliness is often associated with feelings of rejection, misunderstanding and being left alone - These feelings are in contrast to our wishful thinking of being loved and accepted by others as we are - also with our physicality and sexuality - We know about infants who are abandoned by their relatives that their vitality diminishes immediately, exploration and play activity diminishes, mood subsides, children cry, scream and become passive - as well as our interest in the world diminishes - if we have the feeling to be abandoned (in adult life) - The feeling of emptiness is the defense against loneliness. But if we learn what is in us, then the feeling of not simply being dependent on other people, not simply being at the mercy of their benevolence or displeasure - we clearly feel that we are somebody ourselves ... (V. Kast)

Verena Kast (* 24. Januar 1943 in Wolfhalden, Schweiz) ist eine Schweizer Psychologin und Professorin für Psychologie an der Universität Zürich sowie ...


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