Samstag, 25. Februar 2017

25.02.2017 - Silent child3 and "black sheep" etc...


dali48 and writing books and photographing "flora and fauna" etc...


11.02.1998 - Interpretation of dali48

In the case of growing strains caused by a difficult relationship, the same person can then return to the "comfort" - which a familiar, even if disturbed, childhood role promises... (Covington / Beckett)

Silent child (negative):
Lonely, isolated, withdrawn, lack of social skills, feels invisible, excluded, can show self-obsession, low self-esteem, disturbed self-image, sad, depressed, mistrusts others and makes them reproaches, has difficulties to contact others, fear of the reality, loses itself in fantasies, inactive, indecisive...

Silent child (positive):
Creative, imaginative, well-read, spiritually developed, full of ideas, enjoys solitude, can work independently and alone, nonconformist, good listener, observer...

Hero (negative):
Fear of rejection, avoids risks, perfectionist, his personal needs are not fulfilled, low self-esteem, immature "big child", can not play, can not assess feelings, feels inadequate, self doubt, fear of closeness, inflexible, fear of mistakes , has often suppressed feelings of guilt, hesitates, fear of confrontation, unreasonable high expectations of others, compulsion to produce...

Since she still did not seek her most important source of being cared for, the inner journey to self-finding and self-healing - which she had begun years ago - and failed these external caressings (continuing education) in the long term...

Since the "black sheep" often lives in a constant state of confusion, this person can also foam in anger, so that his active sexual energy springs from suppressed anger - which can manifest itself in the man as... - The non-conformism of the "black sheep" as well as his life on the cutting edge of the knife can also be expressed in... (Covington / Beckett)


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25.02.2017 - CG Jung2 and 2nd parentship and "inner child" etc...


dali48 and writing books and photographing "flora and fauna" etc...


11.02.1998 - Interpretation of dali48

If, however, one of the two is caught in a role - as they move towards each other, the possibility of penetrating the protective barrier and making contact gets lost - as well as the potential transformation... (C.G. Jung)

Taking over the 2nd parentship of an adult for the needs of the injured "inner child" by:
To be able to let go, not to be possessive, to create rituals and to maintain them, to recognize the child as a unique individual, (protection, security, food, shelter), be allies, define roles for wholeness and balance, have understanding, encourage collaboration, allow touches, promote positive reinforcement (praise)...

The most common is the fear to be left by someone - and the fear of being swallowed...

Also emotions such as depression, grief or the feeling of being rejected or excluded - can be transferred from the past into a present relationship...

When we respect, nourish and heal our injured inner child - ie actually play parents for it - it can help us to overcome our feelings of insufficiency and dependency and to learn again - how to feel, play, be happy and creative...

Paula's own emotional emptiness contributed to both her private and her occupational ruin as a doctor - because you can not offer anyone a sip of water when your own cup is empty... (C.G. Jung)


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