dali48 and playing chess and stopping smoking as a sports student in Tübingen in the 70s etc.
see dali48 and "I think - therefore I am" etc. (Descartes), see The motto "I buy, so I am" (M. Fox)
"As long as humans think that animals do not feel, animals must feel that humans do not think." " - author unknown
see dali48 and nearly being touched by a low flying swift at lake Unterbacher near Erkrath, 8/1983 till 5/2010
Each day is our whole life - from sunrise to sunset etc… (dali48)
see dali48 and "Zen finds religion in the daily activities." (I-tuan), see Does Zen believe in a soul? - However, the Buddha taught that there are no such things as a permanent Self or Soul which can be reincarnated or reborn after death (Rahula, 1974: page 3). The Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh believes there is no reincarnation in Buddhism (Miller, 2012).
see What is a Zen spirit? - Zen is defined as a state of calm where actions are guided by intuition rather than by conscious effort. The term comes from the Japanese pronunciation of the Chinese word Chan – with roots to the Indian practice of thinking and meditating known as Dhyana.
see What is the psychology of Zen? - Zen is experiential, not didactic. Enlightenment relies heavily on intuition, metaphor, and poetry. The master can point in the general direction toward wisdom, but each person must find their own personal path.19.03.2022
see Is Zen ok for Christians? - Because they are not on the same plane, Zen and Christianity do not conflict. Graham in his book, Zen Catholicism also points out that there is no harm in applying Zen insights into Catholicism.
see Does Zen believe in afterlife? - In Zen, Life and Death are one, a continuum, and they are not separated and there is no dividing line between them (as, indeed, there is actually no dividing line between anything, there only seems to be – divisions are arbitrary and made to enable us to function in the finite world, what Zen calls 'the world of form') ...10.03.2014
see How does Zen affect life? - Zen meditation reduces stress and anxiety by promoting relaxation and deep-breathing techniques. It helps people to manage their emotions, gain clarity of mind and experience deep peace and emotional well-being. The practice halts constant intrusive thoughts.09.05.2024
see What makes a person Zen? - They don't let stress, anger, or frustration get the better of them. According to the Cambridge Dictionary, the word “zen” refers to a person's ability to remain calm and relaxed in the face of difficulties and not worry about things out of their control.27.02.2021
see Is Zen good for Mental Health? - Meditation and mindfulness practices like Zen Therapy have also been shown to have a variety of other positive effects, both mentally and physically, such as promoting feelings of calmness, improving sleep and immune function, reducing feelings of stress and increasing self-awareness.09.11.2022
Let go of something you like, and realize how fleeting it is by living without it... (Ayya Khema)
Buddha realized that all living beings suffer because they desire and cling ... - Peace is an inner attitude to life that consists of letting go and renunciation (see e.g. nuns & monks etc. - d.48) ... (Buddha)
„Das Leben im Daseinskreislauf ist leidvoll: Geburt ist Leiden, Altern ist Leiden, Krankheit ist Leiden, Tod ist Leiden; Kummer, Lamentieren, Schmerz und Verzweiflung sind Leiden." (Buddha)
see dali48 and own experiences and reading & writing about Kübler-Ross, Moody, NDE, LAL etc.
Hands that help are holier than lips that pray! (Robert Green Ingersoll)
see dali48 and UBI & ground pension since 2008, and inflation compensation etc.
see dali48 and Climate Change since Copenhagen 2009 etc. - "Uncontrolled capitalism is producing evil - as bees are producing honey" etc.
see dali48 and reading & writing about peace etc. - see e.g. Zen and Buddhism & Peace & Dalai Lama, Thich Nhat Hanh, Ayya Khema etc, and St Nicholas, St Hildegard, St Francis etc. (dali48)
May "God" bless you! - see dali48 and may the Saints & Guardian Angels bless you etc.!
see dali48 and eating less meat, and more fruits & veggies since the 80s etc.
see dali48 and reading & writing about chick shredding, and buying Free range eggs etc.
see dali48 and animal protection and cage-free egg-laying hens etc.
Homeopathy of S. Hahnemann (ca. 200 years old) should be updated, - i.e. for me more Mother tincture & less medicine shaking, and why is there no homeopathic vaccination? - see "similibus" principle etc. (dali48)
see dali48 and "I hope that Biontech (formerly in Mainz, now in London) & #mRNA #vaccines etc. - will develop a vaccination against cancer etc."
see dali48 and Vollgeld-Initiative & Basic Income in Europe etc. - instead of Banking Crisis 2008 etc.
I also like weeping willow trees - e.g. when I was on camping vacation in the 80s in France & Spain, I had my lunch (fish soup) under such a tree (that was like a tent) in the park of Bordeaux etc. (dali48)
see dali48 and "flora & fauna" since ca. 2000, and deforestation instead of planting trees etc
see dali48 and trees and "flora & fauna" and healthy air etc.
see dali48 and tree planting - instead of deforestation etc.!
see dali48 and Bread - instead of fire-works harming animals, pets etc.
see dali48 and Democracy & human rights & gender justice etc.
"Respect for life - should be the only religion in the world!" - "Religion is a journey inside - and meditation is the way there." ... (Osho)
see dali48 and health and suitable shoes (see e.g. Canles etc. - d.48) & foot hygiene etc.
see dali48 and “If the Trees disappeared off the face of the earth - mankind would only have little left to live healthy,” see e.g. Amazonas forest, Indonesia
siehe dali48 und "Wie viel Wald verliert Deutschland aktuell pro Jahr? - Die Ergebnisse sind alarmierend: Von Januar 2018 bis einschließlich April 2021 wurden in Deutschland auf rund 501.000 Hektar Fläche Baumverluste verzeichnet. Der Verlust entspricht fast fünf Prozent der gesamten Waldfläche und ist damit erheblich höher als bisher angenommen. 21.02.2022"
see e.g. @CGShanghaiAir Shanghai - 2023-03-06 4PM - PM2.5 - 103 AQI - Unhealthy for Sensitive Groups ... etc.
siehe z.B. Air quality in Mönchengladbach etc.
see dali48 and trees & photo synthesis and fresh air and health and cooling and biodiversity etc.
see dali48 and "flora & fauna" and reforesting etc.
siehe „Eine Gesellschaft ohne Gott, ist wie eine gut organisierte Räuberbande“, hat Papst Benedikt den Bundestagsabgeordneten ins Stammbuch geschrieben (see e.g. Cum-Ex etc. - d.48)
see dali48 and demand for the repayment of 300 euros of self-approved inflation compensation for politicians at the taxpayer's expense etc.
see dali48 and demand for the repayment of 300 euros of self-approved inflation compensation for politicians at the taxpayer's expense etc.
see dali48 and health and herbs (see e.g. M. Mességué), and e.g. kidney-tea, gastrointestinal tea, tea for colds etc.
see dali48 and "Words have no direct reference to life, are only a pale echo or image of something that itself is no longer there" ... (D. T. Suzuki)
see dali48's mother Gabriele and playing piano in Steinbach in the 50s, see dali48 and playing piano for 1 year with Mrs Kirsch in SHA in the 50s, and Christmas songs with Mrs Takahashi in Erkrath in the 80s
see "love" might be defined as "a temporary insanity curable by marriage" ... (Ambrose Bierce)
see dali48 and reading about money & war, - and feeding the poor & birds etc.
In Armut lebt: Jeder 3. Student & 5. Rentner, Wer kein „Entlastungspaket“ bekommt: Studierende, Rentner ohne Grundrente, Kranke, https://pic.twitter.com/RUv88KaLbx
see dali48 & for UBI since 2008 & #ClimateEmergency 2022 & for alternative energy as e.g. wind power & solar energy and solar-
see dali48 for solar foil on his window as a student in Tübingen since the 70s, and for balcony solar kits etc.
see dali48 and writing Tagebuch 2008 + 2009, diary3 (2010) in Erkrath, ediary4+5 (2011+2012), Collection of ediary6-12 (2013-2019) in Wickrath etc.
see dali48 and started cycling in the 1950s at the age of 4.5 in Steinbach, cycled to the St. Michael high school in SHA in the 1960s, cycled on the motorway near Freiburg on car-free Sunday during the 1973 oil crisis, 1978 cycling by tricycle to the grocery store on Kyushu in Japan, cycling in Erkrath, and around Lake Unterbach, along the Rhine in Düsseldorf and Cologne etc., 8/1983 - 5/2010, cycling by his folding-bike in Amsterdam 1998, cycling in Wickrath since 6/2010 etc. - and no own car since ca. 2004 etc.
Autobiography
dali48 was born in SHA in 1948 ... Graduation in 1968, High School St. Michael ... Military Service 1968/69 in TBB etc ... Study in Anglistics / Americanistics / Sports Science etc. in Tübingen etc. in 1970 etc ... French course at Touraine Institute in Tours in 1971 ... Conversation Classes as an exchange student at University of Leeds in 1972/73 ... Assistant Teacher in London in 1975 ... DFJW / SIT, Language Teacher, 1975/76 in Tübingen / Lenzkirch / Breitnau (Black Forest) ... Intensive course in Latein, University of Saarbrücken in 1976 ... Latinum, Bensheim in 1976 ... English & Japanese studies in Tübingen & Kurosaki, Japan in 1978 ... GFBA / Bonn, Teacher, German for Vietnamese in Künzelsau in 1979/80 ... VBW / Ellwangen, Teacher, German for Ethiopians in 1981 ... private tuition in SHA in 1982/83 ... From 8/1983 till 5/2010 as Private teacher for German, English, French, Latin, etc. in Erkrath ... In 1999, Teacher for Abacus in Solingen ... dali48 lives as an Author and Online blogger in 41189 Wickrath/Germany since 6/2010 ... retired since 6/2013 etc.
Interpretation of dali48 + update
How much did you enjoy your childhood? - You have seen your parents do not laugh and make jokes and ... - Life was a very serious and annoying … (J. G. Woititz)
- Set boundaries with them. ...
- Limit contact with your parents if you need to. ...
- Don't engage in arguments that you know you won't win. ...
- Talk to a therapist to support your mental health. ...
- Focus on self-care to boost your self-worth.
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04.10.2024
Fear of being left by that person, is the obstacle to building a relationship (see loss of Mum by leukemia in 1961 etc. - d.48)! - A couple has always to do with misunderstandings or ...
Übersicht mit KI
Losing a mother to leukemia is an immense loss, and it's important to practice self-care by eating nutritious food, resting, and getting exercise, while also allowing yourself to feel your grief and being patient with yourself. Connect with others by asking for help from friends and family, and consider joining support groups or online forums, like those offered by The Leukaemia Foundation or Cancer Research UK, to talk with others who have experienced similar losses.
Acknowledge Your Grief
Feel your emotions:
It is normal and natural to feel grief after losing a parent. Give yourself permission to feel whatever emotions arise without judgment.
Be patient with yourself:
There is no "right" way to grieve, and it takes time. Be gentle and patient with yourself throughout the process.
Practice Self-Care
Rest and nutrition: Make sure to get enough rest and eat nutritious food when you can.
Movement: Try to incorporate some exercise into your routine.
Self-nurturing: Engage in activities that bring you comfort or a sense of peace, such as taking a hot bath, singing, or dancing.
Connect with Others
Lean on your support network: Don't hesitate to ask for and accept help from family and friends.
Join a support group: Connecting with others who have gone through a similar experience can be incredibly helpful. You can find online forums and support services through organizations like The Leukaemia Foundation and Blood Cancer UK.
Talk about your feelings: Find a trusted adult, friend, or mental health professional to talk with about how you are feeling.
Maintain Connection with Your Mum
Create memories:
Consider making a memory box or scrapbook, or compiling a list of "things that made us laugh".
Continue traditions:
You can continue the connection by looking at photos of her or visiting her resting place.
Channel emotions:
Some people find it helpful to channel their emotions into helping others or supporting a cause, such as a blood cancer charity.
Adult children of alcoholics:
Show an over-reaction to changes to which they have no control …
They are either exaggerated responsible or totally ...
They cancel a job, without realizing that they have no other ... - They marry without having met the other ...
Normal is as much a myth as Santa Claus and ... - What works best for you?
Übersicht mit KI
The quote suggests that societal notions of what is considered "normal" are as unrealistic as the existence of Santa Claus, and the question "What works best for you?" invites reflection on individual well-being rather than adherence to a false cultural standard. The answer to this personal question depends on your unique circumstances, as what is "normal" is a culturally constructed idea rather than a universal truth, according to Gabor Maté.
Understanding the Quote
The Myth of Normal:
The quote is likely a reference to Gabor Maté's work, "The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture," which argues that the prevalent idea of "normal" is false and often masks the impact of societal pressures, trauma, and stress on our health.
A Cultural Construct:
Just as Santa Claus is a widely accepted, yet fictional, figure, "normal" is a social construct that varies across cultures and time periods, not an objective reality.
What Works Best for You:
In light of the "myth of normal," the question shifts focus from conforming to societal expectations to finding what genuinely supports your personal health and well-being.
Finding What Works for You
1. Self-Awareness:
Explore what truly nurtures your physical, emotional, and mental health, rather than what you think you "should" be doing to fit in.
2. Personal Values:
Identify your core values and build a life that aligns with them, rather than trying to live according to someone else's or society's definition of a successful or "normal" life.
3. Trauma-Informed Approach:
Recognize that past traumas and societal pressures can influence your current experiences and well-being.
4. Community and Connection:
Foster genuine connections with others and build a supportive community that embraces your authentic self.
5. Individuality:
Accept that your path is unique and celebrate your differences, as deviation from the norm can lead to self-discovery and authentic healing.
The adults did not say what they ... - nor did they mean what they ... (J. G. Woititz)
Übersicht mit KI
The phrase "The adults did not say what they meant nor did they mean what they said" describes a disconnect between communication and intent, often due to fear, social pressures, habit, or a lack of clear articulation. People may use indirect language to avoid conflict or rejection, be concerned about their image, or feel unsafe expressing their true thoughts and feelings. This can result in a lack of sincerity and a failure to follow through on commitments, leading to frustration for both the speaker and the listener.
Reasons for this disconnect
Fear:
People may fear conflict, criticism, or not being accepted if they express their true thoughts or feelings.
Social Pressure:
Individuals may modify their language to present a certain image or to avoid upsetting others.
Lack of Clarity:
Sometimes, the inability to express oneself clearly can lead to misinterpretations, where the words spoken don't fully convey the intended message.
Habit:
Repetitive behaviors, such as always agreeing to something one doesn't want to do, can become ingrained and lead to a mismatch between words and true intentions.
Indirectness:
In certain situations, such as professional or romantic ones, people may choose to be less direct in their communication to achieve a more positive outcome.
Consequences of this behavior
Misunderstandings:
The listener may interpret the words differently from the speaker's actual meaning, creating a communication gap.
Loss of Trust:
If a person frequently says things they don't mean or fails to follow through, it erodes trust in their words and actions.
Emotional Disconnect:
The constant attempt to please others or navigate social complexities can lead to feelings of insincerity and emotional fatigue.
How to improve communication
Be Honest and Direct:
When it is safe to do so, speaking one's mind clearly and truthfully can foster better communication.
Be Authentic:
Striving for sincerity in your words helps ensure they align with your true beliefs and intentions.
Consider Your Audience:
Think about how your words might be received and adjust your communication style appropriately, while still being truthful.
Golden Snow “A lot of the above can map out my life ... so many children go through this ... You have seen your parents do not laugh and make jokes and nonsense. - Life was a very serious and annoying issue. - It just was not fun to have fun. In your house was no place for it. - You gave it up. - It was not possible” …
see dali48 and reading & writing about Psychology & Psychiatry and e.g. Freud, Adler, Jung, and Groddeck, Frankl, Fromm, Reich, and Laing, Cooper, and M. Rufer, A. Wolf-Schuler, T. Wollf, I. D. Yalom, J. Bradshaw, V. Kast, A. Lowen, W. Reich, P. Lauster, P. Schellenbaum, J. Murphy, S. Steinbrecher, E. Kübler-Ross, R. A. Moody, K. Ring, I. D. Suttie, E. Jacobson, S. Forward, H. Gastager, C. M. Steiner, W. G. Niederland, R. Funk, N. Schwartz-Salant, A. Janov, A. & M. Mitscherlich, H. König, W. Hollstein, W. H. Lechler, E. Drewermann, B. Bettelheim, V. Kast, M. Klein, M. Lütz, j. Borysenko etc.
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