dali48 and private tuition and writing diary3 and photographing in Erkrath till 5/2010
Interpretation of dali48
They went on to live very frugal and modest to punish themselves because they were dominated by the idea - that they could never repay the debt burden that imposes on them the generosity of their parents… (J. Covitz)
1 dB (decibel) hearing level of the people, 20 dB ticking of a clock, 55 dB, normal speech, 65 dB passing car, over 70 dB: the health risks of long-term noise is detected for a long time, 85 dB truck, 90 dB hand drill (devices e.g. “leaf blowers”, etc. – see Erkrath, 1989 – 5/2010 etc. - d.48), 100 dB jackhammer, rock concert 120 dB, 130 dB jet at the start… (AOK, 6 / 1998)
Bullying: 0221-1618-203 or -204, psychological terror at work (see my private tuition in Erkrath, 1989 – 5/2010 etc. - d.48)...
This is my body - I can feel the pain and see the blood, and I can do what I please:
because of self-hatred, in protest against the rule of parents, etc...
They (the parents) wanted that she (Adrienne) learned only from her parents' experiences, and she was self-destructive and rebellious - always did exactly the opposite of what her parents did, and realized later - that she had neglected and ignored her own needs...
If a child works for its parents, the parents should pay it more than a normal employee - because they get the loyalty of the child to a particularly high value. To pay the child no more than an employee means probably, not to pay its value in use appropriately...
Some parents wish (see probably the majority – unconsciously I think, etc. – d.48) that their child is suffering, as they have suffered (see e.g. R.S. in Australia, and his book Prawn of War etc. – d.48)…
One mother said to her children, who kicked over the traces: “I hope you’ll later have your own children who treat you so mean, how you treated me” (see e.g. Grandma Helen in Steinbach in the 50s etc. - d.48). This sneaky curse can produce in the child's desire to get never children...
Blind obedience (see e.g. military, etc. - d.48) leads to the “bulldozing” of the personality of the child (see e.g. young macho-men, etc. - d.48), and so the child learns violations and penalties that no adult would endure… (M. Montessori)
In fact children do not become neurotic ultimately by frustration - but by the absence or the loss of a social meaning in these frustrations…
Parents need to instill children, when lies are legitimate:
as a protection against unwanted intrusion. Of secrecy when someone is to be surprised, and when not to...
Apart from the prohibition of extreme physical and mental cruelty (see beating, toxic insults, and threats of physical violence or an offense) there is no general rule - for a good disciplinary style... (J. Covitz)
14.05.2014 - Children and Parents etc. by dali48
dali48 and photographing during his childhood in SHA-Steinbach etc.
Interpretation of dali48
It can only be that the end of the world eventually will come. For only that which has no beginning - can last forever… (“Countdown to the Last Judgement”, ZDF, 26.11.1998)
“Freedom to smoke - for free citizens”… (Greenpeace)
“Freedom of car driving - for free contaminating the environment” (see e.g. Climate Change, etc. – d.48)…
“Free profit - for free “locusts” (see e.g. Banking Crisis 2008 & Food Bank etc. - "instead of Basic Income & Human Rights & Resistance" etc. - see e.g. locusts and Ethiopia, etc… (dali48)
Anyone who borrows his friends’ money - loses at the end both, money and friends… (B. Franklin)
Viewed through the rose-colored glasses, gift is pure selflessness and love - In reality it is often the opportunity to initiate an exchange transaction, a fair transaction - or an unfair. Giving is power sharing… (J. Covitz)
Like many tyrants, David's father compares flexibility with weakness. - In reality, the ability to be flexible is strength...
Andreas’ father used to tell his children: “I should have better bred pigs - than to educate kids”...
Children and parents are in a state of cold war - that latently always threatens to become hot. Children in this situation often seem obeying, but are scared. They feel that they can trust the parents never right - because they never know how the parents react...
Good parents cope with the paradox: to give what they have - without sacrificing what they are...
In the psyche of children there is only place - for one father and one mother. A stepfather - he may still be competent - can never replace the father...
Children are instinctively so tied to their parents and so dependent on them, that the loss of parental presence and support - either by going away, either through financial drooping, divorce, suicide, emotional loneliness can be devastating...
The support that is given by the parents is for the psychic welfare of vital importance. - Even when both parents and the child seem to enjoy the close binding, the harmful effects of this binding will eventually become visible…
Not only unfinished duties are left by the suicides - but also a legacy of pain and guilt...
In one case, the suicide of a grandmother - caused a nervous breakdown and severe suicidal fantasies, in the psyche of her grandchild as a teenager...
Children of divorced or separated parents have a delicate sense of the precariousness of their situation - and constantly feel the threat, to become an outcast from the family system that is floating above their heads...
Parents should tolerate and understand the occasional, natural rejection that is being placed by the children to them - without threatening their children with the same rejection...
Children of divorce have behavioral disorders, are more prone to disease, are missing more often in school and have less success...
Narcissistically disturbed parents can hardly imagine - how much the child needs them...
(J. Covitz)
14.05.2014 - Family systems and Disorder symptoms etc. by dali48
dali48 and writing ediary4+5 and photographing flowers in Wickrath since 6/2010 etc.
Interpretation of dali48
In the democratic family system - parents will be responsible for the child in the first 30 years of responsibility...
For the necessary compromises of family life - flexibility and maturity are needed...
The child, who plays healthy - remains healthy...
The child who was treated strictly - and whose intuitions were never taken serious - will never be given the chance to grow...
All too often, love is related with feelings of power and property - and bound to conditions and bindings...
Due to this, beloved children were programmed by their parents - that they accept masochistic one-way relationships...
If you do not practice - you get no more hours is not extortionate...
In reality it is the parents’ life - that teaches the child… (C.G. Jung)
Narcissistic disorder: will only deal with the beautiful side of life - and rejects envy, jealousy and anger...
Our children are the victims of the growing and spreading opinion - that parent's work is a tedious job (see unpaid job, e.g. housework - see no basic income etc. - d.48), which discourages self-realization and leads to a poorer life…
It follows disorder symptoms:
children of divorce, children of separation, 10-year-old runaways, street children, children who later want to have no children, children who are teenage parents, children who hate and are violent, etc...
These people have experienced their childhood as a disaster, - and therefore feel no desire to participate in the cycle of self-propagating (see reproduction, etc. – d.48)...
A child whose healthy narcissistic needs (for attention, affection, respect, food, and shelter) remain unfulfilled - can hardly develop power, independence and self-esteem - but is abused by his parents mentally and emotionally...
No slave was ever so much ownership of his master as the child was the property of its parents - Never were Human Rights so violated as concerning children - Repaid, it concerns the next generation (see e.g. Climate Change, etc. – d.48)… (M. Montessori)
If the narcissistic needs of a child are frustrated - it mostly expresses its frustration in anger at the parents or in depression...
The displaced anger and hurt is expressed as stunting, poor self-image, self-destructive tendencies, tyranny, or promiscuity, etc...
Child abuse in a broad sense:
parents who are promiscuous, tyrannical, incestuous, suffocating, or over-distanced (see e.g. GG, etc. - d.48), and overprotection, neglecting, supercritical, jealous, immature, conditionally-loving, poor role models in terms of: money and sex, discipline and death… (J. Covitz)
It helps with depression: Valerian and St. John's, etc… (H. Frey / J. Berger)
The Earth is “polluted” - the Earth passes and before we know it is all too late...
Everything gets out of balance (see polarization in all areas, e.g. Climate Change etc. - see William Golding and "Man produces evil - as Bees produce honey" etc. – d.48), and slowly the earth will be “over-polluted” (see wgg shared Monsanto Exposed's photo - Why bees are dying by the billions etc. - d.48)… (F. Peneder)
Trifolium arvense (mice clover) or tincture D1 against chronic diarrhea (see also blood root, blueberry, blackcurrant, etc. - d.48)... (U. Böhmig)
dali48 and writing and cycling and photographing in Wickrath since 6/2010 etc.
https://www.facebook.com/100000452958045/videos/372377540163904/
dali48 and menaced private teaching (since 1989) and writing books & cycling & photographing in Erkrath till 5/2010.
dali48 and playing chess and stopping smoking as a sports student in Tübingen in the 70s etc.
Each day is our whole life - from sunrise to sunset etc… (dali48)
21.06.2023 - I didn't see a butterfly yet in Wickrath this year ... (dali48)
I'm neither right nor left, see Salvador Dali in this context - I'm only dali48
Psychology says, Trust your intuition. It never lies.
see dali48 & FGYO / SIT, language teacher, 1975/76 in Tübingen and Lenzkirch (Black Forest), and wandering in the morning, and in Erkrath (8/1983-5/2010) cooking houseman and teaching in the afternoon, on Saturdays & compact courses during holidays etc.
see dali48 and walking and cycling etc. - and without own car in Erkrath since 2004 - and without driving in Wickrath since 6/2010 etc.
"It takes few words to express the essential" - Paul Éluard
"One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things." ... (H. Miller)
"The past is pain, the future uncertainty. The present is all we have" ... (Tao Wong)
„Wer immer die Wahrheit sagt, kann sich ein schlechtes Gedächtnis leisten.“ (F. Sulzer
)
"Everything you love will probably be lost, but in the end, love will return in another way." (F. Kafka)
see dali48 and bees and CCD and neonics since ca. 2000 etc.
In "love" are the beginning and the climax - the most beautiful periods etc... (dali48)
"Time spent with cats is never wasted." (S. Freud)
Why not use bio-methane, hydrogen, bio heating oil, e-heating oil - instead of banning oil and gas heating etc. (dali48)
"Only the present moment counts, even when the subject is the past." (R. D. Brinkmann)
"Non-sexual intimacy is therapeutic. Deep conversations, healthy silence, a unique joke from an old memory, similar interests; beautiful stuff." (@ML_Philosophy
)
see dali48 and “If the Trees disappeared off the face of the earth - mankind would only have little left to live healthy,” see e.g. Amazonas forest, Indonesia etc, see e.g. @CGShanghaiAir Shanghai - 2023-03-06 4PM - PM2.5 - 103 AQI - Unhealthy for Sensitive Groups ... etc.
see dali48 and trees & photo synthesis and fresh air and health and cooling and biodiversity etc.
Why not recreate lost Wetlands by desalinated sea water? ... (dali48)
"Half of the money for arms should go as reparation to "flora & fauna" & UBI ,,, (dali48)e money for arms
"Getting older is realizing putting yourself first isn’t selfish, it’s necessary" (@meauhlback
)
"Some people go through our lives to teach us not to be like them." ( Lev Tolstoy)
"is it ethical to hoard bread when families are starving?" (@existentialcoms
)"The goal isn’t money, the goal is to spend your days as you wish." (@ML_Philosophy
)“Give a child a good birth (if at all possible, no drugs to the mother)=1 and a good first three years, especially a good first three months, and a major part of the job of child rearing is done.” ― Arthur Janov, The Biology of Love"Be teachable. You’re not always right." (@ML_Philosophy)
"The tombstone of capitalism will later say: too much was not enough." (Volker Pispers)
see dali48 and environmental disasters & @sara_s_2020 & #Tiredearth & Manila Slum (Philippines) & Creek etc.
»Auf dem Grabstein (der Erde; d. Red.) könnte stehen: Jeder wollte das Beste – für sich.« (Siegfried Lenz)
"Smiling mobilizes 15 muscles, but sulking requires 40. Rest: smile!" (Christophe André)
"Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. And today? Today is a gift that"s why they call it the present." - (@TheWordicle)
"When you realize how precious and fragile life is, it changes your whole perspective." (Ryan O’Donnell)
"A kind word can warm up to three months of winter" - Japanese proverb
"It’s better to walk alone than with a crowd going in the wrong direction." (@wise_chimp)
"It is far better to be alone, than to be in bad company." (@PsychologyDose_)
"The truth is not always beautiful, nor beautiful words the truth." - Lao Tzu
"... We get old too soon, and wise too late." (@_AhmadHijazi)
"Nothing in the world is worth turning away from what we love" - Albert Camus
I am allowed to say NO to others and YES to myself." (@Lenka49044040)
"You can only live forwards, understand life only backwards." (Søren Kierkegaard)
"Write your life - Or they'll wait till you're dead to write the lie" ... (@spectraspeaks)
see "Remove the idea that anybody else is responsible for your misery and suffering; that somebody can give meaning to your life. Accept that you are alone, born alone (premature birth, 7 months etc. - d.48), and you will die alone" ... (Osho)
"Respect for life - should be the only religion in the world!" ... (Osho)
"Religion is a journey inside - and meditation is the way there" ... (Osho)
"Zen finds religion in the daily activities." (I-tuan)
see
see dali48 and nervous breakdown & psychotherapy (1 year) in Tübingen in 1974 and the ontogenetic & phyloggenetic unconscious etc.
see dali48 and dreaming & visions, see e.g. The 2004 Indian Ocean earthquake & tsunami etc, see Golden G. Snow "I journey I know it's true. I've seen the future too. In my "journey", things are not good. So much of the earth will be ... soon. I have no more to say."), and NDE and reincarnation and reading & writing ...
see scott_hurst retweeted by dali48 "If all the atheists left the USA, it would lose 93% of the National Academy of Sciences but less than 1% of the prison population" …
Spelt helps: fatigue, loss of energy, heart problems etc. (St Hilda)
@dali48
I found this dairy of great interest and enjoyed the journey ... it is filled with well written information that covers all age groups, from history to health both in body and mind ... the why's and where's are answered in complete ... thanks dali48 for sharing ...
Thank you for sharing. Your braveness to fight illness has inspired me to face life in a different way dali48. I love the concept of living in the moment and breathing into it. This has improved my health both in body and mind.
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see dali48 and warning of neo-fascism since 1989 in Erkrath etc. - instead of Ecology & Health etc. - Uncontrolled capitalism (without UBI & wealth tax) produces evil as bees produce honey, see Instead of €100 billion for armaments - €50 billion for #ClimateEmergency 2022 & UBI etc.
see @nur_Dagmar / ntv: "Global #militaryspending exceeds for the first time 2 TRILLION dollars" (2022) - instead of 1 trillion for #ClimateEmergency 2022 and basic income etc. (dali48)
see dali48 & "The already uninhabitable Earth. Today (3.7.23), Zabol in Iran recorded the highest temperature on Earth at 49.6C" (@PGDynes), see e.g. https://aljazeera.com/news/2023/6/30/out-of-time-temperature-records-topple-around-the-world, & #ClimateEmergency 2022 instead of enough clean air (see e.g. Shanghai Air etc.) & drinking water (see desalination of sea water since ca. 2000), enough trees & fish, #ZeroHunger, solar & wind energy since the 70s & UBI since 2008 & biodiversity & health & no inflation, heat waves, wars etc. see dali48 & Heatwaves in #Europe, see #IPCC #ClimateReport, see #ClimateEmergency 2022 (https://insideclimatenews.org/.../cold-weather-polar.../ via , cold spells, #heatwave #Pakistan & #India 62°C/143°F, #Copernicus #Sentinel3 LST, dryness, #Wildfires in US & Canada, 'gigafires' & air pollution (Australia, Amazonas (#amazon #brasilien #luigicani #bäume #natur #pflanzen #säen), California, South Europe, South America, etc), floods, hurricanes, cyclones etc. since ca. 2000, loss of home in Africa, Southeast Asia & Pacific etc. - despite Club of Rome in the 70s, Copenhagen 2009, Paris 2015, Coronavirus 2020, #EarthOvershootDay 2021, #COP26, mass extinction, ecocide (https://www.stopecocide.earth/.../ecocide-due-to-biomass...), "ethnic cleansing", factory farming & zoonoses, racing in the wrong direction, see Instead of €100 billion for armaments - €50 billion for #ClimateEmergency and basic income etc. (dali48), see https://www.boell.de/.../20/wettrennen-die-falsche-richtung, see #SaveTibetSaveThePlanet, see Indigenous Climate Action etc. - instead of clean air & drinking water, enough trees & fish, #ZeroHunger, solar & wind energy & Basic Income (see https://eusignday.eu) & biodiversity & health & cures instead of inflation and war etc. War crimes, see e.g. Ukraine etc. - and environmental crimes, see e.g. Kuwait, 50 million tires burn etc. - should be documented & punished by the UNO etc... (dali48)
see History & Genocide of Minorities & Scapegoats - instead of @UNHumanRights and Protection of #environmentdefenders & reparation for natives etc... (dali48)
Don't see swallows here in Wickrath (2018) as before at Lake Unterbach where they were deeply flying before the rain, and were nearly touching my head till 2010... (dali48)
see dali48 and Concerning Chernobyl 1986, see sohub.io/uo63, see sohub.io/st6t, and Fukushima 2011 - see http://www.mdr.de/.../video-2362_zc-b45e8c8c_zs-6da2f47c... - see Comparison of the Chernobyl and Fukushima nuclear accidentshttps://en.wikipedia.org › wiki › Comparison_of_the_C... The following table compares the nuclear accidents at the Chernobyl (1986) and Fukushima Daiichi (2011) nuclear power plants, the only INES level 7 nuclear ... Survivors of nuclear testing should get reparation by the UN etc. (dali48)