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26.11.2019 - Carter / Sokol and shame and control and needs and feelings etc...

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Shame is deadly for human relationships. Shame drives us all into isolation and loneliness. Shame prevents us from becoming friends with others... - Perhaps you were misunderstood or ignored or rejected openly. Perhaps you were left alone completely. The world can be a very dangerous and painful place - You have learned to be safe - So you have also learned what shame is. We have built borders. If they are threatened, we panic or run away to make sure we are never hurt again... - If we do not share important feelings, we become prisoners of our own solitude - It is very painful to be rejected. It demands courage to show up, but the rewards are by far more than the risk... - Those who are satisfied are not so hard with others. People who are in agreement with themselves and with what they do, can also better accept other people... - What we should not accept: partners who physically, emotionally, financially or verbally abuse us; which are unfriendly to our children, friends, pets or families; which are unfaithful or dishonest, which diminish our achievements, etc... - Some of us do not believe in love, or do not recognize it, or do not believe that love is permanent. We feel guilty, vulnerable and weak when someone loves us. We feel dependent, insecure and are afraid to lose control. And all that we do not want to feel... - We are not honest with ourselves ... - The only perfect person is the one who has gone or who is married to someone else. Perfection is only in our imagination - A single person will never meet all your needs... - A heart and a soul - that is a fantasy that does not work... - For a relationship to succeed, both parties must want the same thing at the same time - If that is not the case, it does not count what else they have in common... - Relationships are always a risk and control is the opposite of risk. Control is an obstacle to feelings. Control is manipulation - and closes the doors to our heart... (S. Carter / J. Sokol)

Sep 13, 2019 - A fear of intimacy will thus affect all of your close relationships, ... see that although you've decided to overlook human relationships, ... inside; a feeling other people are 'dangerous' that you can't explain .... shame; childhood trauma; codependency; counterdependency .... Carter, Stephen and Julia Sokol.

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