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31.10.2019 - Woititz and reliability and family and alcohol and symptoms etc...


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A certain degree of reliability is appropriate when it comes to a relationship with a child who is experiencing a particularly difficult stage of development - or a relationship with a person who is ill and can not give - what he has otherwise given... - People who do not deserve our reliability are often very critical to us. They spend a lot of time saying to us - what's wrong with us - No one has the right to treat you badly because you love yourself and you are important for yourself... - For me, it's more important to hear what someone did last night, instead of telling me what he is going to do tonight... Whenever you think you have to put something into action at once, you should look at it at the same moment as rotten fake and wonder what the consequences would be if you fell for it... - The drinking alcoholic usually lies in the form of promises, which he does not respect... - Even the child does not want to see the truth. Nobody wants it - To face reality means to return to health... - If your children do not have to hide feelings - it reduces their load... - Feelings are not right or wrong - They simply are... - It is okay to be annoyed, but it's wrong to be destructive... - The anger you turn inside - causes stomach problems, depression, and all sorts of other problems... - Dinner, sleep, and housework are subject to one fixed schedule... - Through unreliability, children are disoriented and lose the sense of who they are... - You can not feel comfortable in your skin if you never know - what the next day will bring... - Children of alcoholics feel helpless - Life is a burden to them... - We grow in the hard times - and not in the easy ones...
Alcoholism symptoms:
excessive dependency; the inability to express emotions; low frustration tolerance; emotional immaturity; a high degree of anxiety in interpersonal relations; low self-esteem; cockiness; Feelings of isolation; Perfectionism; Ambivalence against authorities; Guilt...
Reaction of the family:
Denial; protection, pity for the drinker; Shame, avoiding situations where alcohol is drunk; Change of relationship positions, dominance, taking over of power, self-employment; Guilt feelings; Obsession, constant concern; Anxiety; Lie; Confusion; Sexual problems; Trouble; Lethargy, hopelessness, self-compassion, remorse, desperation... (J.G. Woititz)

Janet Beigel Geringer Woititz (March 27, 1938 – June 7, 1994) was an American psychologist and researcher best known for her writings and lectures about the adult children of alcoholic parents., Including the 1983 book, Adult Children of Alcoholics.

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