dali48 and studying and playing chess and stopping smoking in the 70s...
11.12.2000 - Interpretation of dali48
Nothing remains as it is at this moment - This is not a pessimism, it is a fact - We should not close our eyes - only because it is more pleasant to look at a beginning than to see the end... (P. Lauster)
We strive for happiness and well-being, but we are looking at the wrong place, because we strive for recognition and possession, for power and status, for safety and knowledge, and think that we find happiness there - We want to have the fear of life in the grip. It can only be temporarily covered - since all this can be lost at any time (and even life, only constant change and death are certain)... - So we have to let go of what creates fear - In a partner relationship it is the fear of loss - Anything that minimizes anxiety can be lost - even the partner himself, for he can die from one day to the next - and we ourselves, by the way, too - So we must let the other be, as he is - He is to leave us just as we are - I let him be as he is without detracting or degrading him - Letting go brings us and the partner into freedom - But we do not want freedom, but attachment (as presumed security)... - In principle, no one can help the other in life, not even ones own mother - Everyone has to go through the conflicts of life himself - he is ultimately alone... (R.M. Rilke)
Being alone is necessary - Only loneliness and isolation can be agonizing... - But, and they all do not want to know it - that "love is something heavy", especially partnership... - By mutual dominance and intolerance - arise intolerance, and mental injuries... (P. Lauster)
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