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01.11.1999 - Interpretation of dali48
For both partners (borderliners) know that they do not have to really interfere with each other, and that they are therefore spared the danger of separation, which would be the result if they activated their true self - What is offered to them here is freedom - Romantic feelings and fantasies about the partner - Some people can only sexually appeal to partners with whom they do not associate an emotional relationship - others are only serious with people with whom they are not sexual: when sexuality enters the relationship, they lose the interest - Others work sexually only when there is no continuity - and only a "one-night-stand" takes place... - The borderline disturbance closely adjacent is the schizoid personality disorder - The schizoid personality is distinguished by emotional coldness and distance, is indifferent to praise and criticism, and maintains close friendships with only 1 or 2 people, including family members - What distinguishes the "schizoid person" from the Borderliner is his most important defense mechanism: the distance and isolation of his self from the inner object... - But unlike the "captive" feelings associated with the rewarding image, they have something of the "self in exile": isolated, exposed, abandoned ... - The dilemma and the compromise of the schizoid personality look like this: She must not venture too close to avoid the feeling of "In-the-trap-sitting" and enslavement - nor can she go too far away, because the distance-feeling would cause alienation and exclusion - In order to ward off corresponding apprehensions, the "schizoid person" in the vast majority of cases puts fantasized or imagined relationships in the place of genuine relationships... - Often he even felt that people were making fun of him... - and humiliating him... - On the other hand, the physical and emotional departure from her gave him the feeling "to be a stranger to the foreign country, to lose contact completely and to be thrown out into an endless empty space - a real man in the moon"... - He (narcist) means to have a right to the narcistic care and reacts automatically with anger and with the devaluation of the other person - if he does not receive this care... - That a break in the development of the child inhibits the ability to love and work, and inevitably - that the life of the adult person becomes the terrible repetition of the emotional deprivations of childhood - Any effort to change the difficult and painful life situation causes only further failures and disappointments - The metaphor of the adult "borderliner" for his childhood - a concentration camp becomes a life-long-lasting prophecy ... (J. F. Masterson)
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