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28.02.2017 - Decisions3 and norms and criticism etc...




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18.02.1998 - Interpretation of dali48

Sometimes decisions are made without thought of the long-term consequences - Too much alcohol or accidental sex, which one repented the next morning, are more examples - Or you decide to leave school in favor of a job and of an income rather than the long-term benefits of higher education - Perhaps you spend unnecessary money on spontaneous pleasure without thinking about your long-term security...

If the others do not like what you do, it is not because they are "wrong," but simply because you live or behave in a way that the others find unacceptable - If someone criticizes you, he only tells you what preferences, desires and norms he has - Create your own norms and stick to it - Then you can see the criticism of other people quite simply as their way to tell you what they do differently - and the way your way is different from theirs - In the awareness that your path is different, they can live quite relaxed - Those who only hear praise and never criticism, only experience half-truths of their friends, whom one can not really trust that they are honest - It is much easier if you can give up the notion of right and wrong - Right and wrong are often a reflection of a particular culture or even the conception of a certain person - In an American study it was found that toddlers approx. 450 times a day (approx. 90%) are criticized or scolded - and hear less than 40 times (about 10%) praise...

Reaction to criticism:
1. This is an interesting view - I will think about it...
2. Would you like to hear my opinion?

It is very important that you understand from the outset that if someone dies or leaves you that you mourn yourself and not the other - You mourn for your loss, for the pain you are going through, and for the void - which is created by the absence of that person in your life...

Do your best and be willing to accept yourself as you are - Don't you do so, you will  deliberately create grief - It is sad but true that we often tolerate the weaknesses and mistakes of other people better than our own... (X. Williams)


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