24.01.2014 - Traumatized Relationships1 and Misunderstanding etc.
Traumatized Relationships... by dali48 on HP
dali48 and photographing his books in Wickrath since 6/2010 etc.
01.05.2001 - Interpretation of dali48
The more you charge your partner by guilt, the less responsibility he will take over. - If you show yourself being vulnerable, your partner can allow this even with himself... (Abrahms/Spring)
I'm feeling (see 1983-2008 etc. - d.48) no longer safe in my own body. - Do you realize what a crazy feeling this is? At a time when your emotions are stirred up, your self is traumatized and your relationship is broken, you must learn to recognize - early signs of escalating violence and stop before your confrontation gets out of control... No drinking and arguing at the same time:
Alcohol only increases your hostility. - Do not threaten with divorce, your relationship is too fragile, as that you could endure this intimidation... It is important to stop accordingly (with the dispute etc. - d.48) and go on to a new date so that the partner who reacted does not feel stifled... If you felt misunderstood as a child for example, you now suppress your needs and so make sure that your partner does not understand you. - If you didn’t find any support, you scream now and make sure that your partner is not listening... What do you need from me to feel loved and cared for? - What's wrong in our relationship? - What touches do you like? ... (Abrahms / Spring)
24.01.2014 - Couples1 and Expectations & Children etc.
Couples and Expectations... by dali48 on HP
dali48's folding bike near Lake Morper in Erkrath, 8/1983 – 5/2010
30.04.2001 - Interpretation of dali48
If you expect to be loved only for your own sake you will have unrealistic expectations of holding together as couples, - and you will feel exposed and shabby, if this is not so... (J. Abrahms / M. Spring)
Children of divorce have more problems than children from intact families in the first 2 years after the separation. - This applies to school performance, conduct, psychological adjustment, self-esteem and social skills... Children of divorce have more problems than children from intact families in the first 2 years after the separation. - This applies to school performance, conduct, psychological adjustment, self-esteem and social skills... If your marriage turns you too much in yourself and in being depressed, - your children will also suffer from your emotional withdrawal... If your marriage turns you too much in yourself and in being depressed, - your children will also suffer from your emotional withdrawal... People who may injure and even hate themselves at a time, can learn to love each other again - People can separate and come back together again - Human conflicts can be successfully resolved - An intimacy crisis can lead to significant changes - and to a stronger bond...
Violent conquest always wins over the course of tenderness, and if only for a short time. - So those lose who are worshiped, compared to those who are loved. - Later, when the passion fades and conflicts occur, you will see the lover and the critical partner in a more favorable light. - But then there is probably no one to which you can return. - I advise you to a cognitive rather than emotional decision...
If you wait to feel positive about before it becomes a positive act - your partnership does not go very far... A healthy, confident, competent adult:
1 Sense of safety and security...
2 Independence in daily life...
3 Solid emotional connections with others...
4 Being estimated...
5 Unrestrained self-expression...
6 Be imperfect and may have some fun...
7 To live with physical limitations...
We do not see things as they are - but as we are... (Anais Nin)
The injured partner:
Her or his silence is not the cause of unfaithfulness of her or his partner, but it puts them in a position to endure what is unbearable... Through an affair, you can direct your hatred to yourself instead of to your unfaithful partner - So you turn the anger that you have on the person who destroyed your family against yourself - then you needn’t mourn the loss of the partner who was not there for you... Speak openly with me about your feelings. Do not shut yourself, do not draw back and grab at me...
Without conflict, there is no nearness. - Stand by your desire, or nothing more than the illusion of peace (this is better than war, etc. - d.48) will remain to you... (Abrahms / Spring)
Golden Snow
“There are so many feeling that go unheard , we hold so much inside ... I believe that there would be less divorce if couples would take the time to talk to each other , if only we could learn to set our feeling free ... Keeping feels buried inside become hateful and words come with real meaning and most times in hateful screaming at each other ... hurting each other until there seems no turning back ... either ending in divorce or in a silence of hurt and sometimes destruction of self ... children suffer untold fear and their lives are destroyed” …
24.01.2014 - Flipper1 and Dolphins etc.
Flipper and other Dolphins... by dali48 on HP
dali48 and photographing a gold fish in Lake Morper in Erkrath etc.
Interpretation of dali48
Everyone likes Flipper: Dolphins are close to the top in the ranking of the most popular animals. - Alone that makes them attractive for zoos, beyond the aesthetic mammals are capable of artistic excellence because of their intelligence. From the perspective of animal rights a fatal combination... For a long time they request not to keep dolphins in captivity (these are ideal requests, well-intentioned, but they can also be counterproductive. - I prefer a dolphin in captivity, who can create sympathy in humans for himself and his conspecifics etc., than the countless "free" dolphins who are starving in the oceans etc., and die in drifting nets or are slaughtered as competitors for food etc. - d.48)...
In freedom, the animals swim up to 100 kilometers a day - and dive up to 300 meters deep...
The now for the Oscar nominated film "The Bay" shows cruel dolphin hunts, by which 1000s of animals die (see IB Singer's comparison with Treblinka etc. - d.48)...
Only the best will be sold - for up to 150,000 dollars... "Zoos are academic institutions in which the animals will be researched" (concerning my knowledge + experience, I guess about 25% - 49% of science as constructive, see e.g. Japanese "scientific" whale hunt etc. - d.48)... (A. Winkler)
However, currently there will be a rethink. - Adler (zoo in Munster) stressed that this had nothing to do with pressure from outside, but with his care for the animals... According to Tanya Breining of Peta you could slowly get them used to the freedom in large outdoor pools in Israel (the Israeli example has convinced me most in a TV show where the dolphins have a loophole into the open sea, and yet voluntarily return etc. - d .48)... "Or they are given their charity in large enclosures, for example in Holland", says Ortmüller of WDSF (I opt for the smaller evil, - a compromise in which the dolphins have greater chances for a long-term survival, etc. - d.48)... (Rhine Post, 08.03.2010)
25.01.2014 - World Water Day1 and Drinking water etc.
World Water Day1... by dali48 on HP
dali48 and photographing at Lake Morper in Erkrath, 8/1983 – 5/2010
Interpretation of dali48
No question: The water is scarce. - But how will we deal with that in the future? - Interview with the French economist and writer Erik Orsenna for World Water Day on March, 22. Dwindling supplies, increasing consumption, climate change expands the drylands. - Today over 1 billion people are missing access to drinking water (ca. 1/6 = 17% of the world population - without "fauna & flora" etc. - d.48)...
ARTE: If water (see e.g. Haiti etc. - d.48) is scarce...?
EO: Water is the most important of all raw materials (and second in comparison to the air of breathing etc. - d.48)...
ARTE: Water can also serve as leverage. E.O: Of course... Because Turkey e.g. controlls the upper reaches of the Euphrates and Tigris... Through ailing water (-pipes) large amounts of drinking water is lost around the world...
E.O: ... In 25 years, 350 million people in Egypt, Sudan and Ethiopia will fight for the Nile water (see my proposal since ca. the year 2000: seawater desalination + pipelines etc. - d.48)...
ARTE: What are other risk areas?
E.O: Southern Mediterranean... Northern Mexico and the Western Himalaya... India (Ganges and Indus)... China, where it is too much in the South, and too little water in the North... (ARTE, 3 / 2010)
25.01.2014 - Ash clouds1 and Europe etc.
dali48 and photographing a wild geese family at Lake Morper in Erkrath, 8/1983 - 5/2010
29.06.2012 - Interpretation of dali48
Ash cloud in Europe - and cancelling of 1,000 flights. The wind drives the ashes of the Icelandic volcano Eyjafjallajökull (in German: Island mountain glaciers) back in the direction of Central Europe...
According to their industry association there are losses in the billions for the airlines...
Since April 2010, the Icelandic volcano has launched about 250 million cubic meters of ash, lava and rocks. This weekend, the ash cloud reached a height of about 8 kilometers... Too cold - vegetable prices are rising. It is 5° C too cold, and the sun barely shows: Because the summer still does not want to be mid-May, vegetable and fruit crops in North Rhine-Westphalia are in arrears at least 2 weeks... (Rhine Post, 05/18/2010)
The Eyjafjallajökull paralyzes Europe. Strong winds caused by the eruption of the Icelandic volcano, are driving a giant ash cloud over Europe... It is the first time in the history of European aviation, that such drastic measures were taken, - and though, from a volcano-logical point of view, this was a rather moderate eruption... Up to 11 km altitude, the ash cloud was ejected - and fine dust particles may even rise up to a height of 20 km and orbit the earth... On a scale of 0 to 8, such a 8 would be for a meltdown as the volcano under Yellowstone, and the Eyjafjallajökull would only get a modest 2...
It could certainly happen that there will be ash dust on cars in some places of Germany, as this has been observed after the eruption of the volcano Mount St. Helens in the U.S. in 1981...
"Extreme, for example, was the eruption of Tambora in Sumatra in 1815 that made the temperatures fall worldwide and caused crop failure," says Geo-scientists Hahne...
Hot steam also brought large amounts of glacial ice to melt, leading to flooding. Approximately 700 people were evacuated from the immediate risk zone... "We should not forget that the volcanoes were earlier there than we as human beings. These elemental forces deserve our respect"...
Ash destroys engines, - see: 1982 over the Indian Ocean - forced landing of a Boeing 747-200 of British Airways in Jakarta, and in 1989, a Boeing 747 of KLM with similar problems, etc... (Rhine Post, 04/16/2010)
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The modern man is in danger to make a desert from the earth, a machine from a person, a systematic collectivisation from the brotherly love - and to bring death in many cases, where "God" wishes life... (John Paul 1, Lumen Gentium)
Almost all of modern technology is in the service of the Faustian delusion to have to correct the creation, - and so to be able to increase the happiness of the people... The question what is worse, immorality, or hypocrisy - has occupied Christianity for nearly 2000 years... (VJ Willi)
dali48 and writing and cycling and photographing in Wickrath since 6/2010 etc.
https://www.facebook.com/100000452958045/videos/372377540163904/
dali48 and menaced private teaching (since 1989) and writing books & cycling & photographing in Erkrath till 5/2010.
dali48 and playing chess and stopping smoking as a sports student in Tübingen in the 70s etc.
Each day is our whole life - from sunrise to sunset etc… (dali48)
see Human Rights & Survival without clean air ca. 3 minutes, clean water ca. 3 days, clean food ca. 30 days etc. (dali48)
see dali48 and a nervous breakdown (burnout) & 1 year of psychotherapy as a student in Tübingen in 1973 etc.
see dali48 and "Flora & Fauna" since ca. 2000 etc. - “If the "Flora & Fauna" disappeared off the face of the earth - mankind wouldn't have anything left to survive” etc.
21.06.2023 - I didn't see a butterfly yet in Wickrath this year ... (dali48)
Leaf blowers against bees etc. in the gardens correspond to hurricanes against humans etc. (dali48)
I'm neither right nor left, see Salvador Dali in this context - I'm only dali48
“There is no greater wealth in this world than peace of mind.” ~ Unknown
Psychology says, Trust your intuition. It never lies.
see dali48 & FGYO / SIT, language teacher, 1975/76 in Tübingen and Lenzkirch (Black Forest), and wandering in the morning, and in Erkrath (8/1983-5/2010) cooking houseman and teaching in the afternoon, on Saturdays & compact courses during holidays etc.
see dali48 and walking and cycling etc. - and without own car in Erkrath since 2004 - and without driving in Wickrath since 6/2010 etc.
"It takes few words to express the essential" - Paul Éluard
"One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things." ... (H. Miller)
"The past is pain, the future uncertainty. The present is all we have" ... (Tao Wong)
„Wer immer die Wahrheit sagt, kann sich ein schlechtes Gedächtnis leisten.“ (F. Sulzer
)
"Everything you love will probably be lost, but in the end, love will return in another way." (F. Kafka)
see dali48 and bees and CCD and "neonics" since ca. 2000 etc.
In "love" are the beginning and the climax - the most beautiful periods etc... (dali48)
"Time spent with cats is never wasted." (S. Freud)
Why not use bio-methane, hydrogen, bio heating oil, e-heating oil - instead of banning oil and gas heating etc. (dali48)
"Only the present moment counts, even when the subject is the past." (R. D. Brinkmann)
"Non-sexual intimacy is therapeutic. Deep conversations, healthy silence, a unique joke from an old memory, similar interests; beautiful stuff." (@ML_Philosophy
)
see dali48 and “If the Trees disappeared off the face of the earth - mankind would only have little left to live healthy,” see e.g. Amazonas forest, Indonesia etc, see e.g. @CGShanghaiAir Shanghai - 2023-03-06 4PM - PM2.5 - 103 AQI - Unhealthy for Sensitive Groups ... etc.
see dali48 and trees & photo synthesis and fresh air and health and cooling and biodiversity etc.
Why not recreate lost Wetlands by desalinated sea water? ... (dali48)
Half of the money for arms should go as reparation to "flora & fauna" & UBI ,,, (dali48)
More money than 1 million should be redistributed into small basic incomes etc. (dali48)
"#UBI is the only policy that can end the Rat Race before it ends us." e money for arms
"Getting older is realizing putting yourself first isn’t selfish, it’s necessary" (@meauhlback
)
"Some people go through our lives to teach us not to be like them." ( Lev Tolstoy)
"is it ethical to hoard bread when families are starving?" (@existentialcoms
)"The goal isn’t money, the goal is to spend your days as you wish." (@ML_Philosophy
)“Give a child a good birth (if at all possible, no drugs to the mother)=1 and a good first three years, especially a good first three months, and a major part of the job of child rearing is done.” ― Arthur Janov, The Biology of Love"Be teachable. You’re not always right." (@ML_Philosophy)
"The tombstone of capitalism will later say: too much was not enough." (Volker Pispers)
see dali48 and environmental disasters & @sara_s_2020 & #Tiredearth & Manila Slum (Philippines) & Creek etc.
»Auf dem Grabstein (der Erde; d. Red.) könnte stehen: Jeder wollte das Beste – für sich.« (Siegfried Lenz)
"Smiling mobilizes 15 muscles, but sulking requires 40. Rest: smile!" (Christophe André)
"Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. And today? Today is a gift that"s why they call it the present." - (@TheWordicle)
"When you realize how precious and fragile life is, it changes your whole perspective." (Ryan O’Donnell)
"A kind word can warm up to three months of winter" - Japanese proverb
"It’s better to walk alone than with a crowd going in the wrong direction." (@wise_chimp)
"It is far better to be alone, than to be in bad company." (@PsychologyDose_)
"The truth is not always beautiful, nor beautiful words the truth." - Lao Tzu
"... We get old too soon, and wise too late." (@_AhmadHijazi)
"Nothing in the world is worth turning away from what we love" - Albert Camus
I am allowed to say NO to others and YES to myself." (@Lenka49044040)
"You can only live forwards, understand life only backwards." (Søren Kierkegaard)
"Write your life - Or they'll wait till you're dead to write the lie" ... (@spectraspeaks)
see "Remove the idea that anybody else is responsible for your misery and suffering; that somebody can give meaning to your life. Accept that you are alone, born alone (premature birth, 7 months etc. - d.48), and you will die alone" ... (Osho)
"Respect for life - should be the only religion in the world!" ... (Osho)
"Religion is a journey inside - and meditation is the way there" ... (Osho)
"Zen finds religion in the daily activities." (I-tuan)
see
see dali48 and nervous breakdown & psychotherapy (1 year) in Tübingen in 1974 and the ontogenetic & phyloggenetic unconscious etc.
see dali48 and dreaming & visions, see e.g. The 2004 Indian Ocean earthquake & tsunami etc, see Golden G. Snow "I journey I know it's true. I've seen the future too. In my "journey", things are not good. So much of the earth will be ... soon. I have no more to say."), and NDE and reincarnation and reading & writing ...
see scott_hurst retweeted by dali48 "If all the atheists left the USA, it would lose 93% of the National Academy of Sciences but less than 1% of the prison population." Spelt helps: fatigue, loss of energy, heart problems etc. (St Hilda)
@dali48
I found this dairy of great interest and enjoyed the journey ... it is filled with well written information that covers all age groups, from history to health both in body and mind ... the why's and where's are answered in complete ... thanks dali48 for sharing ...
Thank you for sharing. Your braveness to fight illness has inspired me to face life in a different way dali48. I love the concept of living in the moment and breathing into it. This has improved my health both in body and mind.
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dali48 and writing books and cycling and photographing etc...
see dali48 and warning of neo-fascism since 1989 in Erkrath etc. - instead of Ecology & Health etc. - Uncontrolled capitalism (without UBI & wealth tax) produces evil as bees produce honey, see Instead of €100 billion for armaments - €50 billion for #ClimateEmergency 2022 & UBI etc.
see @nur_Dagmar / ntv: "Global #militaryspending exceeds for the first time 2 TRILLION dollars" (2022) - instead of 1 trillion for #ClimateEmergency 2022 and basic income etc. (dali48)
see dali48 & "The already uninhabitable Earth. Today (3.7.23), Zabol in Iran recorded the highest temperature on Earth at 49.6C" (@PGDynes), see e.g. https://aljazeera.com/news/2023/6/30/out-of-time-temperature-records-topple-around-the-world, & #ClimateEmergency 2022 instead of clean air (see e.g. Shanghai Air etc.) & drinking water (see desalination of sea water since ca. 2000), enough trees & healthy fish, #ZeroHunger, solar & wind energy since the 70s & UBI since 2008 & biodiversity & health & no heat waves, pandemic, inflation, wars etc. The World’s Workers Are Donning Cooling Vests to Battle Record Heat Waves ... BY CHRIS BARANIUK
Garments that can be packed with ice or equipped with fans are becoming increasingly popular among workers exposed to high heat. - see dali48 and watching female construction workers in the heat near medical environment university in Orio in Japan in 1978
see dali48 & Heatwaves in #Europe, see #IPCC #ClimateReport, see #ClimateEmergency 2022 (https://insideclimatenews.org/.../cold-weather-polar.../ via , #heatwaves #Pakistan & #India 62°C/143°F, #Copernicus #Sentinel3 LST, dryness, #Wildfires in US & Canada, 'gigafires' & air pollution (Australia, Amazonas (#amazon #brasilien #luigicani #bäume #natur #pflanzen #säen), California, South Europe, South America, etc), floods, hurricanes, cyclones etc. since ca. 2000, loss of home in Africa, Southeast Asia & Pacific etc. - despite Club of Rome in the 70s, Copenhagen 2009, Paris 2015, Coronavirus 2020, #EarthOvershootDay 2021, #COP26, mass extinction, ecocide (https://www.stopecocide.earth/.../ecocide-due-to-biomass...), "ethnic cleansing", factory farming & zoonoses, racing in the wrong direction, see Instead of €100 billion for armaments - €50 billion for #ClimateEmergency and basic income etc. (dali48), see https://www.boell.de/.../20/wettrennen-die-falsche-richtung, see #SaveTibetSaveThePlanet, see Indigenous Climate Action etc. - instead of clean air & drinking water, enough trees & fish, #ZeroHunger, solar & wind energy & Basic Income (see https://eusignday.eu) & biodiversity & health & cures instead of wars & inflation etc. War crimes, see e.g. Ukraine etc. - and environmental crimes, see e.g. Kuwait, 50 million tires burn etc. - should be documented & punished by the UNO etc... (dali48)
see History & Genocide of Minorities & Scapegoats - instead of @UNHumanRights and Protection of #environmentdefenders & reparation for natives etc... (dali48)
Don't see swallows here in Wickrath (2018) as before at Lake Unterbach where they were deeply flying before the rain, and were nearly touching my head till 2010... (dali48)
see dali48 and Concerning Chernobyl 1986, see sohub.io/uo63, see sohub.io/st6t, and Fukushima 2011 - see http://www.mdr.de/.../video-2362_zc-b45e8c8c_zs-6da2f47c... - see Comparison of the Chernobyl and Fukushima nuclear accidentshttps://en.wikipedia.org › wiki › Comparison_of_the_C... The following table compares the nuclear accidents at the Chernobyl (1986) and Fukushima Daiichi (2011) nuclear power plants, the only INES level 7 nuclear ... Survivors of nuclear testing should get reparation by the UN etc. (dali48)