Each day is our whole life - from sunrise to sunset etc… (dali48)
see dali48 and "Zen finds religion in the daily activities." (I-tuan)
Let go of something you like, and realize how fleeting it is by living without it... (Ayya Khema)
Buddha realized that all living beings suffer because they desire and cling ... - Peace is an inner attitude to life that consists of letting go and renunciation (see e.g. nuns & monks etc. - d.48) ... (Buddha)
„Das Leben im Daseinskreislauf ist leidvoll: Geburt ist Leiden, Altern ist Leiden, Krankheit ist Leiden, Tod ist Leiden; Kummer, Lamentieren, Schmerz und Verzweiflung sind Leiden." (Buddha)
Hands that help are holier than lips that pray! (Robert Green Ingersoll)
see dali48 and Climate Change since Copenhagen 2009 etc. - "Uncontrolled capitalism is producing evil - as bees are producing honey" etc.
see dali48 and reading & writing about peace etc. - see e.g. Zen and Buddhism & Peace & Dalai Lama, Thich Nhat Hanh, Ayya Khema etc, and St Nicholas, St Hildegard, St Francis, St Martin etc. (dali48)
see dali48 and eating less meat, and more fruits & veggies since the 80s etc.
Homeopathy of S. Hahnemann (ca. 200 years old) should be updated, - i.e. for me more Mother tincture & less shaking, and why is there no homeopathic vaccination? - see "similibus" principle etc. (dali48)
28.11.1998 - Interpretation of dali48
Immature parent:
general lack of energy and drive; a tendency to avoid all problems; Loading the frustration on the partner, - is a sign of low self-esteem and immaturity; compulsive fixation on work and hobbies, for fear of being alone with the family or with oneself.
It follows:
To express ones lack and alienation from the partner, and suffering of the children.
Family therapists have discovered that children often sacrifice themselves and develop disorder symptoms, - so parents can concentrate on these symptoms and repress their own problems.
The unspoken refusal to allow the child to approach an autonomous individual other than his parents can have serious consequences when the child is still small:
e.g. the child does not want to go to kinder garden etc. - Even with seemingly casual remarks, parents can sin if they are not conscious of how seriously they are taken by their child.
A couple with a child must sacrifice high goals:
optimal professional development; geographical mobility; the possibility of divorce at any time.
The needs of every family member are equally important! - The child should be a bit more important.
Single Child (Hazards):
neurotic, overwhelmed, overprotected, over-sized expectations, aggravated by the loss of a parent, i.e. Individual children should look for other role models and build a healthy independence from their parents.
Failure to thrive:
Retention in growth, although no physical neglect is visible, emotional deprivation, unsatisfied hunger for spiritual food, mental and physical degeneration.
In the dream she (daughter) saw him (father) as a "pile of scrap" in the front yard."
The emotionally ill-treated child shows through his symptoms (e.g. illness, summons with the police) only the state of parental marriage (see emergency signals)!
It knows that its growth is hampered by the pain of the parents, and seeks to relieve them of this pain. An intuitively correct strategy! - The child is afraid:
When the marriage of my parents finally breaks, I stand in the cold. - In an unequal marriage the children can not build on the fact that there is a firm bond between the parents.
Parents have the responsibility to prepare the child for life, - and the child is supposed to make it easier for parents to tolerate the pain of aging and dying!
A parent can also form a coalition with the child against the other parent.
In the democratic family system all have certain basic rights!
No one is like the other, - and his individuality has to be respected!
Every member has the right to speak and unfold in word and deed, - to ask for what it needs, - to make criticism, - and to say what is on its mind, etc... (J. Covitz)
diary of dali48: 23.11.2018 - J. Borysenko and Audio therapy and Resist ... can never replace the father... (J. Covitz) Humans and plants are mortal and.
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