dali48 and playing chess and stopping smoking as a sports student in Tübingen in the 70s etc.
Real love does not show itself between two persons. - There exists the danger that the one loves himself in the other - but only where 2 as "we" turn to a third person ... (R. St. Viktor, Rhine Post)
The predominance of technology is at the same time the end of the private sphere, - and its decline fits in the gloomy prophecies of a cultural pessimism - which unites technical progress and social decline (and destruction of the environment etc. - d.48)! ... (J. Schlemmer)
Respect for privacy, offers then, as a matter of principle, only the technically free society (as little as possible, - and as much as necessary etc. - d.48)! - If we endanger this security in social cohesion - which is also the case when we are being "tapped" (spied), the human retreat to itself will follow (see inner emigration, etc. - d.48)! - The intimate sphere as the basis for contacts to fellow human beings is transformed into an ego-sphere in the sense of the withdrawal of contacts. - The willingness will sink, to engage in bonds, and commitments. - The distrust in others and the selfish retreat to ourselves is the most unpleasant consequence of the threat of intimacy! ... (G. Arzt)
see dali48 and "I think - therefore I am" etc. (Descartes), see The motto "I buy, so I am" (M. Fox)
"As long as humans think that animals do not feel, animals must feel that humans do not think." " - author unknown
see dali48 and nearly being touched by a low flying swift at lake Unterbacher near Erkrath, 8/1983 till 5/2010
Each day is our whole life - from sunrise to sunset etc… (dali48)
see dali48 and "Zen finds religion in the daily activities." (I-tuan), see Does Zen believe in a soul? - However, the Buddha taught that there are no such things as a permanent Self or Soul which can be reincarnated or reborn after death (Rahula, 1974: page 3). The Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh believes there is no reincarnation in Buddhism (Miller, 2012).
see What is a Zen spirit? - Zen is defined as a state of calm where actions are guided by intuition rather than by conscious effort. The term comes from the Japanese pronunciation of the Chinese word Chan – with roots to the Indian practice of thinking and meditating known as Dhyana.
see What is the psychology of Zen? - Zen is experiential, not didactic. Enlightenment relies heavily on intuition, metaphor, and poetry. The master can point in the general direction toward wisdom, but each person must find their own personal path.19.03.2022
see Is Zen ok for Christians? - Because they are not on the same plane, Zen and Christianity do not conflict. Graham in his book, Zen Catholicism also points out that there is no harm in applying Zen insights into Catholicism.
see Does Zen believe in afterlife? - In Zen, Life and Death are one, a continuum, and they are not separated and there is no dividing line between them (as, indeed, there is actually no dividing line between anything, there only seems to be – divisions are arbitrary and made to enable us to function in the finite world, what Zen calls 'the world of form') ...10.03.2014
see How does Zen affect life? - Zen meditation reduces stress and anxiety by promoting relaxation and deep-breathing techniques. It helps people to manage their emotions, gain clarity of mind and experience deep peace and emotional well-being. The practice halts constant intrusive thoughts.09.05.2024
see What makes a person Zen? - They don't let stress, anger, or frustration get the better of them. According to the Cambridge Dictionary, the word “zen” refers to a person's ability to remain calm and relaxed in the face of difficulties and not worry about things out of their control.27.02.2021
see Is Zen good for Mental Health? - Meditation and mindfulness practices like Zen Therapy have also been shown to have a variety of other positive effects, both mentally and physically, such as promoting feelings of calmness, improving sleep and immune function, reducing feelings of stress and increasing self-awareness.09.11.2022
Let go of something you like, and realize how fleeting it is by living without it... (Ayya Khema)
Buddha realized that all living beings suffer because they desire and cling ... - Peace is an inner attitude to life that consists of letting go and renunciation (see e.g. nuns & monks etc. - d.48) ... (Buddha)
„Das Leben im Daseinskreislauf ist leidvoll: Geburt ist Leiden, Altern ist Leiden, Krankheit ist Leiden, Tod ist Leiden; Kummer, Lamentieren, Schmerz und Verzweiflung sind Leiden." (Buddha)
see dali48 and own experiences and reading & writing about Kübler-Ross, Moody, NDE, LAL etc.
Hands that help are holier than lips that pray! (Robert Green Ingersoll)
see dali48 and UBI & ground pension since 2008, and inflation compensation etc.
see dali48 and Climate Change since Copenhagen 2009 etc. - "Uncontrolled capitalism is producing evil - as bees are producing honey" etc.
see dali48 and reading & writing about peace etc. - see e.g. Zen and Buddhism & Peace & Dalai Lama, Thich Nhat Hanh, Ayya Khema etc, and St Nicholas, St Hildegard, St Francis etc. (dali48)
May "God" bless you! - see dali48 and may the Saints & Guardian Angels bless you etc.!
see dali48 and eating less meat, and more fruits & veggies since the 80s etc.
see dali48 and reading & writing about chick shredding, and buying Free range eggs etc.
Homeopathy of S. Hahnemann (ca. 200 years old) should be updated, - i.e. for me more Mother tincture & less medicine shaking, and why is there no homeopathic vaccination? - see "similibus" principle etc. (dali48)
see dali48 and "I hope that Biontech (formerly in Mainz, now in London) & #mRNA #vaccines etc. - will develop a vaccination against cancer etc."
see dali48 and Vollgeld-Initiative & Basic Income in Europe etc. - instead of Banking Crisis 2008 etc.
I also like weeping willow trees - e.g. when I was on camping vacation in the 80s in France & Spain, I had my lunch (fish soup) under such a tree (that was like a tent) in the park of Bordeaux etc. (dali48)
see dali48 and "flora & fauna" since ca. 2000, and deforestation instead of planting trees etc
see dali48 and trees and "flora & fauna" and healthy air etc.
see dali48 and tree planting - instead of deforestation etc.!
see dali48 and Bread - instead of fire-works harming animals, pets etc.
see dali48 and Democracy & human rights & gender justice etc.
"Respect for life - should be the only religion in the world!" - "Religion is a journey inside - and meditation is the way there." ... (Osho)
see dali48 and health and suitable shoes (see e.g. Canles etc. - d.48) & foot hygiene etc.
see dali48 and “If the Trees disappeared off the face of the earth - mankind would only have little left to live healthy,” see e.g. Amazonas forest, Indonesia
siehe dali48 und "Wie viel Wald verliert Deutschland aktuell pro Jahr? - Die Ergebnisse sind alarmierend: Von Januar 2018 bis einschließlich April 2021 wurden in Deutschland auf rund 501.000 Hektar Fläche Baumverluste verzeichnet. Der Verlust entspricht fast fünf Prozent der gesamten Waldfläche und ist damit erheblich höher als bisher angenommen. 21.02.2022"
see e.g. @CGShanghaiAir Shanghai - 2023-03-06 4PM - PM2.5 - 103 AQI - Unhealthy for Sensitive Groups ... etc.
siehe z.B. Air quality in Mönchengladbach etc.
see dali48 and trees & photo synthesis and fresh air and health and cooling and biodiversity etc.
see dali48 and "flora & fauna" and reforesting etc.
siehe „Eine Gesellschaft ohne Gott, ist wie eine gut organisierte Räuberbande“, hat Papst Benedikt den Bundestagsabgeordneten ins Stammbuch geschrieben (see e.g. Cum-Ex etc. - d.48)
see dali48 and demand for the repayment of 300 euros of self-approved inflation compensation for politicians at the taxpayer's expense etc.
see dali48 and demand for the repayment of 300 euros of self-approved inflation compensation for politicians at the taxpayer's expense etc.
see dali48 and health and herbs (see e.g. M. Mességué), and e.g. kidney-tea, gastrointestinal tea, tea for colds etc.
see dali48 and "Words have no direct reference to life, are only a pale echo or image of something that itself is no longer there" ... (D. T. Suzuki)
see dali48's mother Gabriele and playing piano in Steinbach in the 50s, see dali48 and playing piano for 1 year with Mrs Kirsch in SHA in the 50s, and Christmas songs with Mrs Takahashi in Erkrath in the 80s
see "love" might be defined as "a temporary insanity curable by marriage" ... (Ambrose Bierce)
see dali48 and reading about money & war, - and feeding the poor & birds etc.
In Armut lebt: Jeder 3. Student & 5. Rentner, Wer kein „Entlastungspaket“ bekommt: Studierende, Rentner ohne Grundrente, Kranke, https://pic.twitter.com/RUv88KaLbx
see dali48 & for UBI since 2008 & #ClimateEmergency 2022 & for alternative energy as e.g. wind power & solar energy and solar-
see dali48 for solar foil on his window as a student in Tübingen since the 70s, and for balcony solar kits etc.
see dali48 and writing Tagebuch 2008 + 2009, diary3 (2010) in Erkrath, ediary4+5 (2011+2012), Collection of ediary6-12 (2013-2019) in Wickrath etc.
see dali48 and started cycling in the 1950s at the age of 4.5 in Steinbach, cycled to the St. Michael high school in SHA in the 1960s, cycled on the motorway near Freiburg on car-free Sunday during the 1973 oil crisis, 1978 cycling by tricycle to the grocery store on Kyushu in Japan, cycling in Erkrath, and around Lake Unterbach, along the Rhine in Düsseldorf and Cologne etc., 8/1983 - 5/2010, cycling by his folding-bike in Amsterdam 1998, cycling in Wickrath since 6/2010 etc. - and no own car since ca. 2004 etc.
Autobiography
dali48 was born in SHA in 1948 ... Graduation in 1968, High School St. Michael ... Military Service 1968/69 in TBB etc ... Study in Anglistics / Americanistics / Sports Science etc. in Tübingen etc. in 1970 etc ... French course at Touraine Institute in Tours in 1971 ... Conversation Classes as an exchange student at University of Leeds in 1972/73 ... Assistant Teacher in London in 1975 ... DFJW / SIT, Language Teacher, 1975/76 in Tübingen / Lenzkirch / Breitnau (Black Forest) ... Intensive course in Latein, University of Saarbrücken in 1976 ... Latinum, Bensheim in 1976 ... English & Japanese studies in Tübingen & Kurosaki, Japan in 1978 ... GFBA / Bonn, Teacher, German for Vietnamese in Künzelsau in 1979/80 ... VBW / Ellwangen, Teacher, German for Ethiopians in 1981 ... private tuition in SHA in 1982/83 ... From 8/1983 till 5/2010 as Private teacher for German, English, French, Latin, etc. in Erkrath ... In 1999, Teacher for Abacus in Solingen ... dali48 lives as an Author and Online blogger in 41189 Wickrath/Germany since 6/2010 ... retired since 6/2013 etc.
14.11.1998 - Interpretation of dali48 + update
The man of the modern age has made himself a subject and placed in the place of "God." - In the plurality of postmoderns he now stands in the dilemma between self-realization at any cost and self-loss! - Compromise: "being yourself in relationship" ... (G. Geshake, Rhine Post, 13.11.1998)
The man of the modern age has made himself a subject and placed in the place of "God." - In the plurality of postmoderns he now stands in the dilemma between self-realization at any cost and self-loss! - Compromise: "being yourself in relationship" ... (G. Geshake, Rhine Post, 13.11.1998)
Übersicht mit KI
Being "yourself" in a relationship is a balance of maintaining your individuality, expressing your needs assertively, and practicing healthy compromise where both partners feel respected. It means engaging in mutual understanding, setting personal boundaries, and avoiding excessive self-sacrifice to prevent losing yourself in the relationship.
How to Be Yourself While Compromising
Cultivate self-awareness: to understand your own needs, values, and desires.
Communicate assertively, expressing your perspectives and feelings clearly and respectfully.
Maintain healthy boundaries: to protect your personal space and values from being eroded.
Balance self-care with consideration: for your partner, avoiding self-abandonment.
Engage in activities and hobbies: that are separate from your partner to maintain your identity.
Prioritize mutual respect: over constant agreement; it's okay to have different views.
Recognize the difference: between healthy compromise, which is a mutual effort, and self-betrayal, which is giving up too much of yourself.
Signs You're Losing Yourself
Constantly changing: your preferences or values to please your partner.
Replacing "I" with "we": so much that your individual self feels lost.
Neglecting your own social life, hobbies, or personal growth.
Feeling a sense of sacrifice or resentment: because your needs are consistently unmet.
Real love does not show itself between two persons. - There exists the danger that the one loves himself in the other - but only where 2 as "we" turn to a third person ... (R. St. Viktor, Rhine Post)
Übersicht mit KI
The idea that "real love does not show itself between two persons" is a misconception; love is shown through actions and behavior, making it evident through a person's choices and treatment of another, not solely through their words or the physical presence of both individuals. Lasting love manifests as consistent support, respect, and empathy, demonstrated in daily interactions and the ability to overcome challenges together.
Love in Action, Not Just Words
Demonstrated through deeds:
True love is expressed not just through declarations but through consistent actions that make a person feel safe, valued, and deeply seen.
Daily presence:
It's shown in the everyday ways someone treats you, offers comfort, and listens with genuine understanding.
A verb, not just a feeling:
Love is a dynamic process that requires conscious effort and action to thrive, not just an emotion that happens to one person.
Qualities of Real Love
Respect and support:
It involves unconditional acceptance, support during difficult times, and honesty.
Trust and security:
A loving relationship builds trust, where one person doesn't have to constantly question their worth or if they are valued.
Endurance:
Lasting love can withstand challenges, distance, and differences, persisting through cycles of intimacy and separation.
What Love Is Not
An absence of conflict: While not a source of pain, love is not the absence of challenges; it is the commitment and effort to sustain the relationship through them.
Constant togetherness: True love doesn't necessitate never being apart.
Manipulation: Love is characterized by truth, clarity, and earned safety, not manipulation or conditional affection.
The predominance of technology is at the same time the end of the private sphere, - and its decline fits in the gloomy prophecies of a cultural pessimism - which unites technical progress and social decline (and destruction of the environment etc. - d.48)! ... (J. Schlemmer)
Übersicht mit KI
The statement "The predominance of technology is at the same time the end of the private sphere" suggests that the pervasive influence of technology, particularly digital platforms, erodes the traditional boundaries between public and private life, leading to a significant transformation or "end" of the private sphere as it once existed. This is because technologies such as mobile phones and social media make private information more visible, blur the lines between personal and public interactions, and allow for constant connectivity and algorithmic control.
How Technology Transforms the Private Sphere
Ubiquity and Connectivity:
Mobile technology's constant presence and ability to connect individuals anywhere create a context where private actions are more likely to be exposed to public view.
Erosion of Boundaries:
Digital platforms and networks can blur the distinction between personal life and public communication, making it difficult to maintain a clear separation between the two.
Algorithmic Control:
Technology, particularly through corporate or state control, can lead to comprehensive algorithmic management of public and private spheres, influencing what is seen and how it is interpreted.
New Forms of Public Interaction:
While traditional notions of the private sphere may weaken, technology also creates new autonomous communication networks that can establish new forms of public or "proletarian" spheres, albeit within a transformed landscape.
Transformation, Not Disappearance:
Rather than disappearing entirely, the private sphere is undergoing a complex transformation driven by digital technologies. This includes a re-negotiation and adaptation of the very concepts of public and private by individuals and institutions.
Consequences of this Shift
Politicization of Private Life:
Aspects of private experience can become politicized and subject to public concern and discussion.
New Challenges for Individuals and Institutions:
This transformation requires individuals and social institutions to find new ways to defend, adapt, or challenge the notions of public and private in the digital age.
Need for Regulation:
The shift highlights the need for greater political regulation of technologically advanced means of communication to address its potential "disturbing phenomena".
Respect for privacy, offers then, as a matter of principle, only the technically free society (as little as possible, - and as much as necessary etc. - d.48)! - If we endanger this security in social cohesion - which is also the case when we are being "tapped" (spied), the human retreat to itself will follow (see inner emigration, etc. - d.48)! - The intimate sphere as the basis for contacts to fellow human beings is transformed into an ego-sphere in the sense of the withdrawal of contacts. - The willingness will sink, to engage in bonds, and commitments. - The distrust in others and the selfish retreat to ourselves is the most unpleasant consequence of the threat of intimacy! ... (G. Arzt)
Übersicht mit KI
Distrust in others and a selfish retreat often stems from past experiences of betrayal, manipulation, or abandonment, leading to a deep-seated fear of being hurt or let down. This distrust results in a self-protective withdrawal from relationships, as individuals distance themselves to avoid potential disappointment or danger. While a retreat can offer temporary relief, it ultimately hinders the formation of meaningful connections and can contribute to feelings of loneliness and isolation.
Causes of Distrust and Retreat
Past Trauma:
Betrayal, abandonment, or dishonesty in previous relationships can trigger a deep-seated fear of experiencing these harmful situations again.
Perceived Selfishness of Others:
A fundamental belief that others are inherently selfish, greedy, and dishonest can lead to cynicism and a reluctance to engage with them.
Self-Protection:
A lack of trust causes individuals to assume the worst about others' intentions, prompting them to distance themselves to protect their interests and avoid disappointment.
Signs and Symptoms
Constant Questioning: Regularly doubting people's motives and intentions.
Anticipating the Worst: A frequent expectation that others will ultimately let them down.
Emotional and Physical Distance: Withdrawing from social interactions to avoid emotional vulnerability and potential hurt.
Consequences
Damaged Relationships:
The inability to trust and the tendency to retreat can destroy meaningful relationships and create a sense of emotional exhaustion.
Increased Cynicism:
A cycle where suspicion and mistrust become self-fulfilling prophecies, breeding further negativity.
Social Isolation:
Retreating from others can lead to loneliness, which is a biologically stressful state that can erode well-being.
Overcoming Distrust and Retreat
Self-Reflection and Self-Care:
Recognizing patterns of distrust and consciously choosing to nurture oneself can be a path to healing.
Setting Healthy Boundaries:
Learning to establish and maintain clear boundaries can protect one's energy and prevent exploitation.
Seeking Professional Support:
Guidance from health experts, such as counselors or mindset coaches, can help individuals address the root causes of distrust and learn more balanced ways to relate to others.
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