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29.05.1998 - Interpretation of dali48

Many men transfer the need for proximity and embrace to sex - They sexualize their affective needs... - If one can not be the one who one is - and no one who really is there for you, there are no feelings, needs or desires which are okay... - Pain is a vehicle for growth and a wise teacher. Without pain the heart is hollow - The deeper the suffering intersects, the more joy you can take... - In my opinion parents have the task to be there for their children - For this reason I would not allow couples to have children before the age of 30 years...

Checklist about adult children from emotionally violent families:
Absenteeism, displacement and deception, undifferentiated emotions, loneliness and isolation, mental disorders, obsessive compulsive and addictive behavior, high degree of insecurity, intimacy problems; Loss of affect and energy; Shameful impulses and needs; Resentment-guilt-circuit; emotional Shambles; Emotions are not expressed - Taboo of silence! - Excessive control, wrong self; Empty and narcistically deprived, manipulative and arbitrary, pampered and sophisticated; Terrorized and tormented; Insatiable child within; Perfection, urgency, authoritarian; Needy and demanding; Physically or sexually abused; No emotional coping strategies - no communication skills; Injured emotional limits; Internal anger, grief, fear, joy, shame; Aggressor-victim ambiguity; Loss of inner self-unity; Entangled in concern for the feelings of others, present is phobia; Damaged by bad example; Emotional constraints (and dramatic outbreaks)...

Abandonment:
It is difficult for you to separate - You maintain relationships that have long since been broken - You hoard things and do not seem to be able to separate yourself from anybody or anything...

Undifferentiated emotions:
You never know exactly what you feel; You do not know how to express your emotions - You cry when you are angry; You are fierce when you are afraid. You somatize your feelings, i.e. You are often ill - You feel by others...

Loneliness and isolation:
You have no relation to your environment - which sometimes seems unreal to you... (J. Bradshaw)

John Elliot Bradshaw (June 29, 1933 – May 8, 2016) was an American educator, counselor, motivational speaker, and author who hosted a number of PBS ...
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29.05.1998 - Interpretation of dali48


You feel lonely and always feel - that you do not belong properly to it...

Disorders:
You go so much into detail that people get bored with you. Or you are generalizing and get angry about things that you can not change, such as the authorities - You are excited about little things, you are pondering and worrying too much. It's all in your head, you're intellectualizing, explaining, analyzing a lot and discussing your problems rather than doing something about it. You are constantly reading about your problems to find out why you are as you are...

Forced and addictive behavior:
You take chemical substances... - to change your feelings - You distract yourself from your emotions by activities... 


Highly uncertainty:
You are not always aware of what you are afraid of, but you suspect the worst... - You are always afraid... - You are painting everything in black...


Intimacy problems:
When you start to feel someone close, you sabotage the relationship. You feel attracted to emotionally inaccessible people... - You are not interested in people you can be close to - If you have a relationship, you cling to it...

Affect and energy loss:
People experience you as cold and mechanical... - You are incongruent... - You say you are happy, excited, angry... - but you do not look like that and do not sound happy, excited, angry, etc. - You are dulled...

Shame-filled desires and needs:
You are ashamed when you have sexual pleasure or are hungry, long for a touch or need something...

Resentment-guilt circulation:
You are annoyed to have responsibilities for your parents or own family, but you have feelings of guilt if you neglect these duties - You are angry because you can not pursue your own interests - And you always have guilt feelings when you pursue your own interests...

Emotional shambles:
With every emotion you have, you also feel shame...

Emotions are not expressed:
You grew up in a family where no one could express what he was feeling - They were expecting you to read thoughts - You were supposed to know that your parents loved you. In your family, it was frowned upon to talk about feelings or to express them elsewhere...

Excessive control:
You control your emotions, and be ashamed - if you do not succeed... (J. Bradshaw)



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