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10.01.2013 - Interpretation of dali48

How much did you enjoy your childhood? - You did not see your parents laugh or see jokes and nonsense. Life was a very serious and annoying affair - It was just not fun to have fun... - There was no place in your house for it. You gave it up. It just was not possible... - Fear of leaving is becoming an obstacle for the building of a relationship - A couple always has to deal with misunderstandings or anger. The tiniest misunderstanding becomes a huge problem for adult children of alcoholics very quickly, because the issue of "leaving" becomes the focus... - Adult children of alcoholics: show an overreaction in changes that they have no influence on; constantly seek recognition and confirmation; usually have the feeling of being different from other people! - Are either overly responsible or totally irresponsible. They accept everything or give up completely. In between there is nothing. They are extremely reliable, even if it is obvious that something or someone does not deserve this reliability. However, this so-called "reliability" is mainly a consequence of fear and uncertainty. They are impulsive. They tend to be clinging to behavior without seriously considering alternative possibilities of action or possible consequences. This impulsiveness leads to confusion, self-contempt, and loss of control over their surroundings. The result is that they have to spend a tremendous amount of energy to restore the caused confusion... - You are canceling a job without making it clear to yourself that you have no other income. You marry without really knowing the other... - Your lack of patience will exacerbate all your problems. Above all, this promotes your impulsiveness and your self-condemnation... - Normal is a straightforward myth like Santa Claus and Easter bunny - What works well for you? - What is best for you? - And best for your family? - The task is to find out what you and your loved ones feel comfortable with... - You have, as you grew up, very often experienced that you have not been taken into account... - You tend to take yourself back too quickly and believe that your feelings are not worth anything... - You believe in every day again anew. If you go day after day, you can change any bad habit. The adults did not say what they meant, nor did they mean what they said... (J. G. Woititz)

Janet Beigel Geringer Woititz (March 27, 1938 – June 7, 1994) was an American psychologist and researcher best known for her writings and lectures about the adult children of alcoholic parents., Including the 1983 book, Adult Children of Alcoholics.

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31.10.2019 - Woititz and reliability and family and alcohol and symptoms etc...


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24.12.1998 - Interpretation of dali48

A certain degree of reliability is appropriate when it comes to a relationship with a child who is experiencing a particularly difficult stage of development - or a relationship with a person who is ill and can not give - what he has otherwise given... - People who do not deserve our reliability are often very critical to us. They spend a lot of time saying to us - what's wrong with us - No one has the right to treat you badly because you love yourself and you are important for yourself... - For me, it's more important to hear what someone did last night, instead of telling me what he is going to do tonight... Whenever you think you have to put something into action at once, you should look at it at the same moment as rotten fake and wonder what the consequences would be if you fell for it... - The drinking alcoholic usually lies in the form of promises, which he does not respect... - Even the child does not want to see the truth. Nobody wants it - To face reality means to return to health... - If your children do not have to hide feelings - it reduces their load... - Feelings are not right or wrong - They simply are... - It is okay to be annoyed, but it's wrong to be destructive... - The anger you turn inside - causes stomach problems, depression, and all sorts of other problems... - Dinner, sleep, and housework are subject to one fixed schedule... - Through unreliability, children are disoriented and lose the sense of who they are... - You can not feel comfortable in your skin if you never know - what the next day will bring... - Children of alcoholics feel helpless - Life is a burden to them... - We grow in the hard times - and not in the easy ones...
Alcoholism symptoms:
excessive dependency; the inability to express emotions; low frustration tolerance; emotional immaturity; a high degree of anxiety in interpersonal relations; low self-esteem; cockiness; Feelings of isolation; Perfectionism; Ambivalence against authorities; Guilt...
Reaction of the family:
Denial; protection, pity for the drinker; Shame, avoiding situations where alcohol is drunk; Change of relationship positions, dominance, taking over of power, self-employment; Guilt feelings; Obsession, constant concern; Anxiety; Lie; Confusion; Sexual problems; Trouble; Lethargy, hopelessness, self-compassion, remorse, desperation... (J.G. Woititz)

Janet Beigel Geringer Woititz (March 27, 1938 – June 7, 1994) was an American psychologist and researcher best known for her writings and lectures about the adult children of alcoholic parents., Including the 1983 book, Adult Children of Alcoholics.

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